Screen time

Hey everyone! I need some advice/ help 😂
So we’ve got to that stage where my 20 month old will have meltdowns if she’s watching something on our phones and we take it away from her. I know in the first place we shouldn’t give it to her but the reason why we have is because we’re out in a restaurant and she’s just moaning and it makes me feel guilty for other customers in the restaurant. I have tried books, colouring/paper, toys etc etc but she’s not interested in that, just wants to watch something 😖 she also won’t eat dinner (even at home) unless she is watching something which is a bad habit we’ve got into and we’re trying to get out of it, any tips/tricks/ help/ advice would be very much appreciated! 😂😩

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Honestly I’d say just take it away, it’ll be really difficult at first and you’ll probably wanna rip your hair out lol, but I think the best way is explaining to her that because she kicks off she’s no longer allowed the phone (she’s a little young so you’ll probably have to tell her every time she starts having a tantrum as she probably won’t remember your reasoning) and don’t give in she will eventually give up lol, it’s just waiting it out and dealing with the tantrums for possibly a few weeks

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I'd go cold turkey at home I think. Or you could try putting some music or something audio only on as a bit of a distraction. We have a yoto player which my LO loves so could be worth a try!

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Cold turkey - it will only get worse. I'd do research on screens (especially small screens) and kids and it will give you the motivation to do it. Im not anti screens we just have only TV x

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We go through phases at home sometimes we use screens way too much and others we go days without any. We have definitely noticed that the more he watches screens the more he demands them and the more dependent he becomes on them. They also stop working so well as a tool and his behaviour overall gets worse. When we pull back its bad for a day or 2 but then we get our lovely boy back and he doesnt constantly demand them. We try to limit him to a few low stimulation shows on TV, no tablets or phones. Id try to go cold turkey for a few days, a week if you can handle it and then you can reintroduce in a controlled way if it feels right. Music helps, playing outside, sensory activities etc. As for eating we just eat all meals together and i chat to him and i try not to harrass him about his food, its on the table he can eat it if he wants. We also look at family photos on my phone rather than a youtube video.

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I come from the gypsy community but married out of it. I would still class myself as a gypsy with my morals, values and the way I hold myself. I’m still in contact with all my family who are English gypsies.

So my husband. I told him what I was from day one and he was fine about it whatever. I’ve recently had a baby and I’m dressing my baby traditionally and buying him jewellery ect and I will raise him speaking our language and hold him to the same values and tradition that I come from.

My husband is now making comments “why is it always from your side” “I’m not raising my child that way” another stupid one is I wanna be called mam but he REFUSES to call me it and calls me mummy or mom.

My husbands family are the same they will use racist remarks and I’ve heard them say “that’s so pikey” which is a racial slur towards us. When I told his family I’ve been looking at jewellery to get him they said “uh isn’t that a bit chavvy? Is that the gypo in you coming out” and I said well yeah he is a gypsy boy and they went to say “yeah HALF HALF”

It’s driving me mad. I want to raise him how I was raised and I told my husband this but now it’s becoming a serious problem in the relationship. I don’t mind him having some “normal” behaviours as his family are already making plans to do with my son in the future (another issue as they think they have so much control over him but didn’t give a shit when I was pregnant) but to me family come before anything and I want my child to be close to both parts of his family not just mine. I don’t see the issue with raising him half and half but it seems to me now that my husband and his family have a massive problem with it to the point where I’m ready to tell them all to fuck off. How can they use racist terms that reflect their own grandchild?????

What would you do? I’ve already said my child is half and they’re still having issues. Me and my husband are still very much inlove and we do get on well he’s nothing but good to me in all other terms this is the only issue that we have.

I just now feel stuck.

I feel like we already have a lot of racism towards us I don’t need it coming from so called family too :)

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Screen time

Hey everyone! I need some advice/ help 😂
So we’ve got to that stage where my 20 month old will have meltdowns if she’s watching something on our phones and we take it away from her. I know in the first place we shouldn’t give it to her but the reason why we have is because we’re out in a restaurant and she’s just moaning and it makes me feel guilty for other customers in the restaurant. I have tried books, colouring/paper, toys etc etc but she’s not interested in that, just wants to watch something 😖 she also won’t eat dinner (even at home) unless she is watching something which is a bad habit we’ve got into and we’re trying to get out of it, any tips/tricks/ help/ advice would be very much appreciated! 😂😩

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Wanting to be completely alone during birth

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I think he just sees it as pointless and too much work when we can just give him cheap store-bought food, but that make me feel so guilty.

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