Baby blues or depression?

I’m 2 days postpartum. Had a traumatic c section and am stuck in the hospital with preeclampsia now. I feel so sad and disconnected from everything. I’m trying so hard to push through but I feel like breaking down and crying. I’m in pain physically and emotionally. I feel disconnected from my babygirl and from myself. I don’t know what to do.

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Did they put you on magnesium? Tell your drs the way you are feeling.

Birth trauma is really heavy. I def felt like I was in a daze after my HELLP. I can’t remember the first 24 hours like at all. Once my body healed and the meds cleared and I got home things got better.

I also had a great therapist. Postpartum support international has good resources.

I went through the same thing. The first week is so rough! I want to tell you it gets better but the nurses and doctors will provide you resources. They’re not there to judge or diagnose you. I cried the whole week, every time a doctor came in most of them gave me time to pull myself together and never really addressed it. Especially the female doctors and nurses. It’s
Extremely common especially for the trauma you’ve endured. Just breathe mama. You can’t determine or jump to
Conclusions yet. Not saying it could or couldn’t be PPD but it took me awhile myself to pull myself out of the emotional toll it mentally and physically took on my body. I’m not going to say it’s an easy road because it isn’t. I just hope you have help at home for when you and your little one are cleared to leave. As someone who’s gone through it, give yourself grace and time. It took about three/four months to feel more like myself and finally feel like I’m getting a routine in. You’ll get there too 💕

I also had a very traumatic c section birth and got stuck in the hospital with preeclampsia and had to deal with a lot of negligence. I totally get how you are feeling right now I felt very disconnected from reality and from my daughter and no one understood what I meant. My messages are open if you ever need someone to talk to or just vent to

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Just to add, I have been a permanent fixture in her life since she was 18 months old and we have a loving and positive relationship and am also friends with her mum (who split from my partner amicably and also remains friends with him)
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My 1 year old has been left for almost 2 days in discomfort, she is so itchy and no one will see us!

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