Sex after 3b tear?

I had my baby 16 weeks ago and my husband and I are yet to have sex. I feel so nervous about it as I sustained a 3b tear whilst giving birth to my daughter. I’ve been signed off by doctor but just don’t feel ready at all. I’ve tried bits whilst on my own to get into the swing but I’m very dry down there. Where it also ripped my clitirous when I go to check it’s all ok it feels as if it tears again so uncomfortable. My husband has been nothing but supportive but always feel so guilty when I turn him down. Im not breast feeding so wondering why I’m just not in the mood. Has anyone else experienced this and when did you get back into the “swing” of it?

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Pacifiers? I didn’t want to start since I don’t want her to stay dependent on it.

I’ve managed to not used one so far but it’s getting hard not too since the four month sleep regression has started and my husband is against it…

Maid of Honour drama!!

So in October, before I found out I was pregnant I asked my then closest friend to be my maid of honour at my wedding(which was going to be in March). I then found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks later and ever since then she literally started AIRING me and downright stopped talking to me basically. She has a box full of a bunch of art materials of mine that I kept asking to get and she would say that she was busy and for me to get it another time. There’s a lot more about how she treated me when I was pregnant but it’s just too much to write up.

So I obviously no longer want this person at my wedding let alone being my maid of honour and have been wanting to ask to get the things I gave her when I asked her to be my maid of honour when I do get my box of things as it would be so much more hassle to try replace every single item that I handpicked and bought for my maid of honour and bridesmaids but have not been sure what to say and been so scared of how she will react or what she will say to me or even how to approach it.

Advice please!!!

Toddler keeps giving himself an erect!on

I genuinely don’t know what to do about this behavior. First time I noticed it I was giving him a bath and he grabbed a brush, brushed his booty and his little thing went straight up and he thought it was funny.

Obviously I took it away but he’s gotten more creative, he uses other brushes he finds, ice cubes (that he’s always loved to play with), his finger, ect.

He’s noticed we don’t like this behavior and will stop it so he will go to the other room and take off his diaper to do it and then laugh when he gets caught.

I don’t want to traumatize him about his own body and I understand it’s him being curious and not understanding but he has done it so often since finding out he can and it’s relentless about it.

I put clothes on him to but he’ll take them off and if I catch him taking it off he runs away laughing and hides and I’m 6 months pregnant so chasing him is hard

Anyone have any ideas I could get him to stop? Or anyone know why he’s doing this? It’s really bothering me.

Breastfeeding and weight loss

Has anyone noticed breastfeeding has made them lose weight?

If so, how long did you breastfeed for and how often each day?

How to wean baby off boob??

My 4 month old hates taking the bottle, how can i make the transition easier for him? I’m giving expressed milk but i want to move to formula

I feel like I’m horrible mom

I love my 4 months old daughter. I would do anything for her. I’m a first time mom and I’m doing this basically alone (no village). My husband is at work from 8am to 5:30pm and when he comes home he’s no help. It’s always an argument if I can get a few minutes of help from him.
I also have been dealing with EXTREME back pain from my emergency c-section that I don’t sleep at night.
My daughter has been different today. She’s constantly crying due what seems to be from pain, I’m assuming a mix from gum (teething pain) and reflux. For the first time today she’s puking a lot of her formula milk out. She usually spits but today she has extra burps and a lot more puke. I’ve been comforting her all day. It’s raining so we can’t go out for a walk today.
Since I don’t know how else to comfort her except hold her, read her books, sing to her, pat her on the back, give her snuggles, walk around the house with her, nothing helped. She just kept crying and screaming to the point that I screamed. This is NOT like me. I then put her in her crib and turned on the mobile crib music and left her for 30 seconds to go cry. I know we go through a lot as moms, but I feel horrible and started to cry and then after a few seconds I held her. I ended up giving her 0.25ml of baby Tylenol, and then held her again, I apologized to her while still crying and she smiled and reached out for my face. I feel horrible like I should be able to handle my emotions more.
Again, I’m going through a lot. I miscarried twice, had a surgery, and she is from an emergency c-section. My family lives abroad and I have no one except my not-so-helpful husband. It’s not an excuse. I feel really alone and she depends on me, so I shouldn’t have screamed. I am breaking inside. From pain in my back and lack of sleep, lack of support, it just broke me. I love her so much and I’m so happy she chose me. I don’t know why or what to do, but I have so much guilt and shame