Fair or am I being silly

We've just sent out the invites for my son's 4th birthday in September. It'll just be family and close friends.
My husband's sister has offered to give him his cousin's pedal bike with stabilisers, as it's in great condition.
I'm genuinely not ungrateful, but my son currently has a balance bike and we've always said we'd wait until he'd mastered that before buying him a brand-new red pedal bike of his own (without stabilisers). It's something we've been looking forward to getting him ourselves.
My husband is now saying he'll tell his side of the family not to buy our son anything for his birthday.
Am I being unreasonable for wanting to buy this particular present ourselves, or is my husband overreacting

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I agree with you, I think as parents there’s certain special things that we want to buy ourselves. I’m sure if your husband said to is sister we appreciate the offer but we’d love to buy one ourselves as we’re looking forward to it I think as parent herself she would totally understand. So I do think husband is overreacting

I understand in a way but also we love hand me downs...and I wouldnt be paying for a brand new bike if the one offered is in good condition. Also id take the stabilisers off before you give it to your son. There will definitely be other chances to buy your son a new bike.

I think your husband is overreacting a little bit but also you can always accept the bike and re-gift it at some stage and buy another bike you were planning to buy.
That way everyone is happy.

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