Partner working nightshift

Hi

Is anyone else’s partner a nightshift worker? I’m so stressed and solo parenting 24/7 it’s really getting to me

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Sahm rant

I’m sick and tired being told “you choose to be a stay at home mom”. Just because I’m a stay at home mom doesn’t make have to take care of our baby 24/7 with no breaks. I shouldn’t have to beg you to change a diaper, I shouldn’t have to ask you to feed our baby. I shouldn’t ask you to spend time with our baby while I leave the house to get groceries or even just have time for myself to breathe. You wonder why she doesn’t take bottles or the spoon good from you or why she’s looking at mama all the time. YOU choose to come home after work and go straight to sleep or go on the game. Do I not get freedom either? Or leave the house without you saying “take the baby with you”. Don’t forget when I argue with you about all this you like to say “I’m sorry I’m a shitty father”. Out of the weekend you actually spend a few hours with your kid but that’s because I’m there with you. Sometimes I think did I make a mistake having a kid? I love you and our daughter but we aren’t the same anymore.

Leaving my 12 month old with my 75 year old MIL for 4-6 hours…

Husband bought us tickets to see a movie and get lunch with some other family members. He enlisted his mom (she’s 75) to watch our very active/fast 12 month old. He says she needs the challenge/activity and can handle it, but admittedly I’m nervous. She’s pretty much our only unpaid option for childcare and she’s managed him for a couple of hours on her own and once for 6 hours when he was younger/not quite crawling yet.

We’ve been to one movie since my son was born and honestly 4-6 hours without a baby sounds great but part of me is tempted to just stay with my son so I don’t have to be worried 🫠 am i just being paranoid? I’m worried she can’t keep up,

50/50 in parenting

I am a first time mother of a 5 month old and I’m struggling to make my husband understand that he isn’t doing enough. He does a lot so thinks that’s fine but when I ask him to do one thing off his ‘dad’ schedule, it’s always done with reluctance. I’m sick of repeating myself of how unfair it is so I have told him I will not say it again as I’m done feeling bad about it. Now how can I actually fix this.

Past time investment, what's too much...

My partner leads a large band and it's doing very well but I resent his success. I'm proud of him but also angry. It means more days away. We had a baby 4 months ago and have toddler child. He says he would support me if it was me in this situation. I just can't imagine being so invested in something else than the family especially with kids being so young.

He is hands on with the kids, often makes dinner, groceries. But he does neglect some things at home.

Our family often goes and supports him, including overseas. He spends a lot of time to plan and practice. He has events at least once a week all day. The drama of the band makes him in a mood. He stresses when he is a home leading up to events. Always on his phone to respond correspondence for it. This is his past time not his full time job.

I want to support him but I also think it's unfair because my world is small right now. He is really good at it, too. Living his best life. I don't have a question but am hoping to get some retrospective.

I need to vent..

My husband is the dumbest person I know! And he plays off that he’s super smart and makes me feel like I’m an idiot.

The thing that makes me say this is that I want to make ready to bake meals and dump bags to make it easier on me. I work full time and I’m constantly being pulled in so many directions.

He says that if you freeze the meals, it makes them unhealthy and they go bad. I told him that is not the case and even showed him studies and evidence that prove that the nutritional value doesn’t get affected if you freeze something. It preserves it.

And then he goes, well I don’t expect the internet to be on the right side. Like wtf do you mean???

I showed you literal proof and you still think you’re right. Honestly wtf.

Question 🤔

When is a good time to put your child in sports?