Newborn trenches

My girl was born on the 24th, and lemme tell you I LOVE being a girl mom🩷 my only issue right now is she’s got her days and nights soooo mixed up, like I’m talking she sleeps nearly all day except to feed every 2-4 hours MAX ( I don’t ever let her surpass four hours because we’re trying to get her back up to birth weight) so I’ve been pumping when she has long naps and getting anywhere from 3-5oz in 20 minutes (10mins on each side)

We EBF aside from getting a bottle when dad wants to feed her, usually at night when I have to shower because my girl will not sleep at night. She’ll eat 3oz easily from a bottle and still wants more. I get worried about over feeding her because she’s been spitting up as of late.

My question is, how can I get her to sleep at night? She gets fed, burped, diaper change and a change of clothes before bed. I feed her until she falls asleep, and then when I put her down she wakes up and starts rooting so I’ll feed her again and she’ll fall right asleep after 5 minutes. I slept with her for the first week because of her choking scare, but we started to move her into her own bed in my room last night.

Should I be doing something different? I haven’t had a newborn in 10 years so I feel like I’m in no man’s land😅 ANY advice would help at this point, I just want my girl on some kind of schedule until she’s old enough to actually get her in a routine.

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To circumcise or to NOT circumcise, that is the question.

Hey ladies, so I'm about to give birth, like... he should be here tomorrow. and I'm torn between the two. His dad isn't and he's not really helping me with this decision and now its crunch time. I feel like dad hasn't had any issues and (tmi) but I personally think its pretty cool, and can see certain benefits of have a "pull back" but I've only had a daughter and this is my first (and last) boy. I asked one of my friends who didn't choose to circumcise her son and she said she wish she had did it. He's about five now and she says that it irritates him.
So now I'm like... what to do?!

Nursery bag

Hello! Looking for a small backpack for nursery with my son’s name sewn or printed onto it. I’ve been told to check Etsy but just wanted to ask here for recommendations to see if there are any other good bags out there! Any ideas? ☺️

Toddler rejection 😢

My son is nearly two, and I’ve found myself feeling rather saddened by something I’ve noticed recently.
Whenever we’re somewhere with other children, whether it’s the park, a playground, soft play or anywhere similar, he toddles over to them with such enthusiasm, only for them to wander off. I do appreciate that they’re all still very young and that this is simply how toddlers often interact, but it seems to happen so consistently that I can’t help wondering whether he’s beginning to notice.

Perhaps I’m projecting, as I experienced quite a lot of rejection myself as a child, so I’m very conscious that I may be viewing things through that lens. Even so, it’s difficult not to feel rather heartbroken watching it happen time and again.

He’s our first, so he doesn’t have any siblings, and we don’t have any family nearby. I’m a stay at home mum, so he isn’t at nursery either.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? Is this simply a perfectly normal phase at this age, or are there things we could be doing to help him build friendships and confidence with other children?

Problems

I’ve been with my husband for a long time, and lately I’ve been questioning whether what I’m feeling is normal or a sign that something is missing. He’s a wonderful provider and an amazing dad, and we do have genuinely happy moments together. But I often don’t feel emotionally safe, valued, or respected during conflict. I’m usually the one trying to talk things through, while he gets defensive or shifts the blame, and it leaves me feeling unheard. I love our family, which is why this is so confusing. Has anyone else been in a relationship where the good moments are really good, but the hard moments make you question everything? How did you know whether it was something you could work through or something that wasn’t enough anymore?

Nap time chaos🤯

My baby has just turned 3 months old and in the last couple of days he goes from 0 to 100 when he’s tired and wanting to nap. Once he’s asleep, he sleeps amazingly, but he will just scream and cry before it, most of the time not wanting to be rocked or held either. I think it’s developmental as he’s becoming more aware of the feeling of falling asleep? Anyone else in the same boat?!?

Am I being selfish by putting my baby to sleep by 8pm and having a strict routine?

My baby goes to sleep between 8 - 8.3 depending on his last nap and I am strict by it as he is goes over its difficult to put him to sleep. It's the same thing with stimulation near his bedtime. It's taken me over an hour to put him to sleep because he fell asleep in the car my husband woke him up and when we walked into the house my in-laws straight away grabbed him and stimulated him. I
Told my husband specifically I need to put him to sleep so take him straight to the room.

I put him down at this time, as 1 he's tired but also after he goes to sleep I get
To shower, make food, eat and have some me time. Whereas for everybody else they want to spend that time with him but I'm the one that has to suffer after.

Am I selfish for wanting some me time in the evening and putting him to sleep and essentially taking away that time with my in-laws? (They work and often back late evening)