Anti bassinet

This lil muffin refuses any bassinet/crib/swing/doc-a-tot etc. She only wants to be on me or held by me. Any advice? She’s three weeks. I’m exhausted 😵‍💫

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Congratulations as well she is adorable

My daughter is only 7 days today and I’ve started something I regret already don’t get me wrong I love sleeping with her but now she will only sleep if she is with me or her dad and last night I was a little frustrated because I couldn’t be comfortable and have her in a safe position while in the bed with us so of course I had to sacrifice my comfort but I slept with her 1 time and now if she gets put down or is in the bassinet she does not like it she wakes up and wines and cries

Hey! Just wanted to say how cute is your baby. Have you tried baby wearing? That would free up your hands and give your baby the comfort she needs at the same time.

Let her cry . You dont want your baby to be clingy . Its ok for them to cry .

I was given advice to use a heating pad in the bassinet (and remove it before putting the baby in.) Also to put my breast pads in the bassinet with my 3 week old so she can still have the familiar smell nearby. So far it’s hit or miss over here, but maybe worth a try?

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