Am I being stupid?

Hey ladies.. I need your help. My husband has a brother who unfortunately divorced his wife. Recently the brother has been saying to me/my husband that I remind him of his ex wife? I have heard negative things about his ex wife and this has got me thinking do I remind him of the bad things? It is just annoying as I am my own person and he doesnt know me that well as a person to make his judgement. They obviously divorced for a reason and it just doesn’t sit right with me that he compares me to his ex-wife.

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Need help, husband is financially abusive and I want to travel for my Grandmothers funeral but he is very controlling with his money.

So my Grandmother just passed away and i would like to travel for the funeral. I am a stay at home mom with 3 kids and haven’t been in the work field in years. Especially after we moved it didn’t make sense to find a job since my kids are young.

My husband is the one that works and handles EVERYTHING!!! I do not get any weekly or monthly allowance 😔We don’t share bank accounts or anything. Once in a while he will give me a $100 here and there. So most of my spending goes to my Visa card but then he gets upset and wonders what I buy because he is the one that will have to pay it off. Then he makes the comment let’s see how long it will take until you come to me to pay it off.
Most of the things I buy are for the kids. We go on outings because it’s the summer and I try to find affordable things to do with them but then they need food or I go to the grocery and pick up some things that I need for the house or for dinner that day.

He does the grocery shopping but it’s always the same random things. It’s not like groceries based on meals that are planned out for dinner.

So anyways my grandmother passed away and I told him I would like to travel and go to her funeral since I missed my grandfathers funeral. It took a a lot of back and forth about how financially now is not the time and how we should go another time. My family had a group meeting and want me to be there since I haven’t seen them in YEARS. They also want me to do the Eulogy so I have to travel to get there.

In the end he end up booking the flight and hotel for me but he said I have to bring our toddler with me because he doesn’t want to watch him or deal with him. So I will be alone on a very long 2 days of traveling (flying and layover) but there for a week with my toddler.

I also will need spending money for food but I am scared to ask him because he already made a big deal about this trip. I am honestly happy for the break away from him but how am I going to manage without extra cash. I need to pay for taxis, I have to contribute to the funeral as well. My toddler eats a lot and I have to buy food since the hotel charges for all the meals.

I should add we have been married for 14 years and I am unhappy with the situation 😞

Is there a quick job I can do (toddler has to come too) because he is always with me. I need to make some extra cash to bring with me.

I really appreciate all of you who read this and offered any suggestions ❤️

Husband issues

I’m 15 weeks pp and have retained 10kgs post delivery. I’m exclusively breastfeeding so don’t have the time to work out or go on diet. Other day I tried to fit in my pre pregnancy jeans for a small outing. Hub comments “ look at your tummy, it’s clearly visible and you look like an aunt “

I have been slim my entire life, and already dealing with body issues. His comment made me sad. I shared how i feel, he said he was joking and i take everything seriously. 😟 he is also texting and trying to be friends with my best friend. I’m so upset right now.

Am I a terrible wife?

Hey all…I am 4 months postpartum and struggle with PPD/PPA. My husband knows nothing about mental health no matter how many times I explain what I’m going through. This evening he asked if I could “schedule him in for a makeout session.” I told him sure…whenever he takes care of the laundry for the kids, cooks, cleans, takes our son to his frequent appts, runs the household, remembers our sons meds, etc and he just looked at me. He helps some don’t get me wrong. But he leaves the mental load to me, waits for me to tell him what to do and then says I didn’t remind him if he forgets to do something. Am I a terrible wife? Y’all I am exhausted to my core 🫩 we both also work full-time.

Give me your thoughts

Does my husband have a right to complain that I’m a jobless, low-income wife? Every night, I take care of our daughter and stay up late until she falls asleep. On top of that, I also work part-time at our family business.

Advice on foods to give my 11 month old

Tried a few different foods such as toast, pancakes, scrambled eggs and cereal. He only likes scrambled eggs and pancakes.
Any recommendations or ideas, feel free to message me anytime!
Thank you 😊

Chores

Guys I need some help/ideas to keep on top of house chores, appointments, food shopping etc. I feel like we’re drowning at the minute and it’s making me feel really stressed out. Hubby is helping as much as he can but it’s still not enough. It’s getting more difficult to put little one down to put a wash on for example. We’re not sitting down until after half 8 in the evening as it is. And still all our beds are in desperate need of a change but I just can’t find the time.
What do your routines look like day to day?
I know this will get easier in the future (I’ve got a toddler) but right now I’m at a loss.