Sex drive or lack of 🤣

What are we all doing to get our sex drive back? I never had a huge one prior to kids but would occasionally feel like intimacy. I now NEVER. I almost freeze up whenever my partner try's to touch me. I know it's getting between us and it's not good, I need to change something up?! For context mt kids are 1.5 and 4.

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What is a healthy sex life for parents?

Me and my husband have a 6 month old and a 2 year old, our days are pretty chaotic and stressful. We can get so snappy with eachother and totally loose patience, and I feel like we heavily rely on sex to bring us back together again. We have sex almost every day, and on the days we don’t I can really feel the difference in our dynamic. Other factors definitely contribute to our moods such as tiredness and work, but I worry we are potentially “using” each other subconsciously as a stress relief, although I don’t feel like he’s using me, and I don’t believe he thinks i’m using him either. We keep it fun and exciting and something to look forward to that’s just for us

Is this healthy? Is this just the season of life we’re in?

Public sex

I have a fantasy of having sex in public or at least giving/receiving oral my fiancee doesn’t know this but I also think we both would be too shy/scared of getting caught to try it out

Has anyone had sex in public and where?

Would you initiate sex even if you don’t feel like it… ever

So here’s the thing. Like mayyybe I “get horny” once a month. My guess is longer but that’s the longest I’ve gone and then might’ve felt like wanting to truly initiate. Ofc my husband and I don’t go very long without him getting horny lol. Once things get started, esp toys for my clit, then I’m into it and orgasm etc and it’s great. But I don’t feel turned on before the fact. And there’s times when it’s a quickie and I don’t feel aroused at all. I get that my body works different and needs a lot of warming up (except he just skips that and teases me with my vibrator lol) but idk. This being said, should I try to initiate more even if I’m not feeling it? He’s always wishing I would but I feel fake and I feel like he can tell.

My partner has left me.

I am heartbroken. My partner or 8 years has left me and I am currently on maternity leave with no income; with a 7 month old and a 2 year old.

My house is mortgaged, and I can’t afford the bills even when I do return to work. My heart is breaking for my kids.

Has anyone been through this? Do you have any advice?