Co parenting/ splitting time

How do you who co-parent go about splitting time? I’m having such a nightmare. I’m the primary career of our kid who’s nearly 1.

It was originally 3 nights with the dad now he wants 3 on 4 on. I think it’s so doesn’t pay CSM but he’s never paid anything ever. I tried to explain he’s too young for travelling to and from nursery all week at the moment. He kicks off with me something rotten I am responsible for everything really and he just wants our child as and when without thinking of bedtimes or routine so when I get child back it’s a whole reset of wakings in the night and all out of sorts. I finally get a routine back and then it’s back to dads and I’m back to square one. It’s really affecting our child.

I end up trying to protect our kid during nursery days and giving up my weekend day just to keep a routine. I’m so burnt out I work full time and I have many sleepless nights and I have cold , flu , norovirus all in a months plus lack of sleep I feel shit then at dads it fun time on the weekend. I feel like I’m missing out on our child growing up as I only get a few hours a day with nursery and work.

I wish he’d listen to me I’m so tired of this arguing and emotional black main and threats if he doesn’t get his specific days not matter the effects on our child.

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Would you quit?

I started a new job almost 3 weeks ago. A daycare teacher and my two children attend the daycare with me. They are 3 and half and 10 months old. Since starting the daycare they haven’t been doing well. We had to take this week off because they got sick. Which granted I know is a given because they’ve never been around this many germs before. However after taking my 10 month old to urgent care last weekend because he had pink eye to discover he has lost one pound since starting daycare.
I know this because a few days before starting he had his 9 month old check up. He’s not eating well and won’t drink bottles because he’s primarily breastfed.

My 3 year old isn’t doing well either. The teachers seem to be annoyed by him and his behavior. I know he needs extra help and the daycare isn’t the right environment for him which I have plans to help him in place but I’ve witnessed the teachers being a little rough with him and he has left the classroom with a mark on his arm they had no explanations for. He tried to leave the building. Which I do not believe but he did leave a classroom without the teachers knowledge. My director already told me from day 2 if this behavior continues he will no longer be allowed to attend as it’s a safety issue. Last week the director wasn’t at the center she was on vacation. A stand in director spoke to me in a manner I did not like. Claiming my son “doesn’t belong in a general education setting” and sent me home with my children on the day my son left a classroom.
Everytime I drop my children off in their classrooms they scream and cry for me. Which I know is normal but the teachers in the room don’t do much to comfort them. When they know I’m just down the hall.
In addition to all of this. I’m sensing a very toxic work environment where everyone talks about everyone behind their back and nobody is happy there. Which I also know can be common in this line of work but when you add your children to the mix. It gets scary. What would you do?

Husband issues

I’m 15 weeks pp and have retained 10kgs post delivery. I’m exclusively breastfeeding so don’t have the time to work out or go on diet. Other day I tried to fit in my pre pregnancy jeans for a small outing. Hub comments “ look at your tummy, it’s clearly visible and you look like an aunt “

I have been slim my entire life, and already dealing with body issues. His comment made me sad. I shared how i feel, he said he was joking and i take everything seriously. 😟 he is also texting and trying to be friends with my best friend. I’m so upset right now.

Give me your thoughts

Does my husband have a right to complain that I’m a jobless, low-income wife? Every night, I take care of our daughter and stay up late until she falls asleep. On top of that, I also work part-time at our family business.

Malnutrition

My son’s pediatrician told me at his 12 month appt that he was 5 lbs under weight and needs more iron. She said it’s because I’m still breastfeeding. My son will only drink water and breastmilk (from the boob). I finally got him to drink some milk but only if it’s 50/50 with water and in a certain cup. He’s a great eater and now on iron supplements. Idk what to do, I’m trying to give him extra protein, vitamin C (iron absorption)and whole fat yogurt, etc. I feel like I’m not doing enough for him and I’m a bad mom. Any advice or words of encouragement?

Am I being stupid?

Hey ladies.. I need your help. My husband has a brother who unfortunately divorced his wife. Recently the brother has been saying to me/my husband that I remind him of his ex wife? I have heard negative things about his ex wife and this has got me thinking do I remind him of the bad things? It is just annoying as I am my own person and he doesnt know me that well as a person to make his judgement. They obviously divorced for a reason and it just doesn’t sit right with me that he compares me to his ex-wife.

This is going to be a hard post to write

So my partner who I’ve been with for over ten yrs is just slowly grinding on me with his view on life. It’s actually embarrassing. He’s flat out racist and right wing. Today was the nail on the head when he said “I
Don’t want our kid mixing with that culture in nursery incase he touches their saliva”
Like what the heck do you say to that?
It’s a genuine problem for me now dealing with his moods because he’s so against other ethnicities and doesn’t want our child mixing with them. I’ve had a long talk with him about how this is madness and even gone as far as to tell his mum. The issue is that he’s so sweet and a great dad and I love him to bits but this is just an ugly side to him that I’m scared is gonna rub off on our child. What am I meant to do?