Baby daddy and his wife

Hey! I dont usually post on air out dirty laundry but I could use some new perspectives and advice on my son's situation! He is almost 7 years old and has had a stepmom since he was about 2. She moved in very quickly after the dad and I separated, they got married, and she was the sole breadwinner. Went to every appointment, every transition day, tried to make medical decisions, etc. Then she got pregnant and had a baby who is now 6 months old. Since she began trying to have a baby, her and my son began having relationship issues. Now that she has a baby, it is worse between them. He told me that he had a night terror about his stepmom shooting him and that when he told her about it, she responded to him by telling him to not talk about violence around her or her baby. His dad has also become distant and misses important events due to his wife's input it mostly appears.
Im concerned for my son and unfortunately concerned for my ex even though he was not good to me, I worry about him for the sake of my son who loves him. What on earth do I make of this situation and weird vibes???
Also note he has had a stepdad for the last 2 years now and I also have another baby with said stepdad, our daughter is 2 months old. He doesnt appear to have the same issues with my husband, they dont always get along, but their relationship seems strong and independent of me nurturing it.
Thank you for reading!!!!!

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Could she be going through post partum depression maybe she’s just being over protective since that’s her first baby ? If baby is 6mos and them showing up has slowed down maybe they are still getting in the routine of having a 6mo and a 7y/o? I’m not making excuses for her just another point of view.. maybe your son can be getting a little jealous because of their being a new baby and the attention shifting in dads home as well as your home … not really sure how to give advice on this because I have not lived it. Never doubt yourself maybe voice to your baby father about what is going on and how your son feels. My only advice is just to keep giving your son reassure that you are there for him and just teach him about post partum because it really could just be that. Maybe my message didn’t help but I hope the best for your family and congratulations on your baby

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