Low sex drive

I haven’t been in the mood for sex for months but every now and again I’ll have sex with my partner because we’re together so why not…. Well it’s been a month since we’ve had sex and he’s been pressuring me to have sex so I just did it today and we couldn’t finish because we had someone knock on our door and I’m feeling so defeated. I’m in tears right now because I didn’t want to have sex in the first place but I put that aside to please him but he didn’t even finish so he’ll just keep asking for sex and I’m so over it. I wish things were the same as it were when we first got together. We have 3 kids together but I truly have no desire for sex anymore. I’m also not in love with him but I do love him and wish the best for him idk what to do maybe I’m rambling but I’m just in tears from everything lately.

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I’m in tears because I had sex for nothing
I went to the bathroom and cried mid sex because I felt so dirty I felt so powerless but I wiped my tears after crying for a min and went back to having sex just for it to be interrupted and he didn’t finish :(

Hey I’ve struggled with having sex manly from sexual trauma so I can understand the lack of desire for it. Being in love with the person make it mean something. If you want to try to work things out with him then maybe talk to him so you wont be the only one figuring out the issue. Maybe he can be more romantic or take things off your plate,free your mind of stress so you enjoy the intimacy.

Also, I don’t know if you’re religious. I felt dirty when I started to read my Bible bc it was wrong for me to have sex unmarried but I also felt as tho my now husband had entitlement over my body before he married so I kept doing it for a while. Then I didn’t care what he thought anymore because he stop making me feel loved and wanted enough to provide the sex to him.

It can be a number of reasons that’s causing you to feel this way. Don’t force yourself to do it. It will make you feel horrible about yourself. Maybe it’s time to leave. A woman heart leaves before her body does.

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