Baby cries A LOT

My baby cries WHENEVER he goes in the pram or car seat. I have taken him into the shop to ensure he is positioned in the car seat correctly and even the shop assistant was shocked at his reaction. He also really kicks off whenever I have to change his nappy or get him dressed / undressed or into his sleep sack or when I have to wipe his face / hands after he eats.

It’s exhausting as I have to put so much effort into making these activities ‘fun’ but it doesn’t work! I’ve tried every single toy you can think of for the car seat, played baby songs (the happy song by Imogen seems to give him 60 seconds of relief), I sit in the back with him and have my partner drive (where possible), I try to distract him when changing him or give him things to play with and sing to him.

I hate it as I try so hard with him and just want him to be happy!

I’m sure the neighbours think I’m the worst mum in the world as it feels as if he is constantly crying 😭

Is this a ‘phase’ (he has been like this since birth) or do I just have a really *spicy* baby? 😭

Interestingly enough, he is a happy boy in the sling!

Does anyone have a similar baby?

in our community

Grandparents said they aren’t willing to have my son overnight?

Both sets of grandparents are involved in my son’s life, they see him once a week, but when the topic is bought up about a potential sleepover they both are very dismissive. I know this is in their right, but I don’t understand why as they seem to both love my son so much and want to spend time with him.
My grandparents basically raised me how much I was there growing up, some nights I’d sleep over for 3 days, and my husband was the same.
Whenever I look online to see if anyone can relate, I only find people who’s parents are pretty much not involved at all, or people who are complaining their parents WANT the kids to sleepover and they refuse to allow it.
For reference both grandparents work part time (2 days a week) and are in their late 50s. People in my life have often asked me if my son sleeps over at the grandparents and when I say no they always act bewildered as to why. When we ask them why they’re very dismissive. When my son was a baby it was “not until he’s stopped needing milk”, then it was “not until he’s sleeping completely though the night”, now he is doing that it’s “not until he no longer has to wear nappies”.

Is anyone in a similar situation? My son is 2 and a half.

Grandparents…

My boyfriend’s parents want to have my baby today but I’m just not ready for her to be away from us for that long. I’ve let them take her for a couple of hours after them pressuring me and I was so upset the whole time because I didn’t want to be away from her. I’ve offered for them to come over whenever they like to see the baby and I’ve made the effort to take her round to their house.

Since I had her, I’ve felt quite pressured by them to let them have her for sleepovers and take her for whole days, and now his mum has said she feels like i don’t trust them and that she’ll end up resenting me for not letting them have her.

Would you say I’m being unreasonable, or is it normal to struggle with letting grandparents have your baby on their own? I’m really upset about the whole situation xx

Is anyone else just so overwhelmed by the amount of STUFF and THINGS😭 clothes, toys, random items.. my husband isn’t a hoarder or anything, but he’ll sometimes bring home stuff and I’m like??? We literally don’t need this AT ALL

And I’m already drowning in adhd overwhelm and anxiety, obviously the kids have clothes and we have 3 kids so it’s added up, and they’re constantly growing out of them and I just look at it all and all I can think about is landfills and overconsumption and crap, then my MIL.. don’t even get me started 😐 she’s very materialistic and always wants to gift stuff, not even quality stuff, just cheap plastic crap that I end up having to donate and feel guilty about that too. My AC stopped working yesterday and I’m spiraling. Today I just want to nuke my house and start over idk. Nobody else cares about stuff in the house but me

Knickers

Hi everyone,

I'm currently potty training my 2-year-old. When we go out, I put knickers on her with a pull-up over the top, just in case she has an accident. The problem is that all the knickers I've found are far too big.

Although she's 2, she's tiny for her age. She's mostly in 12–18 month clothes, with some 9–12 month tops and shorts still fitting.

Does anyone know where I can buy knickers in 9–12 months or 12–18 months? I'm really struggling to find any. She's been doing so well with potty training, and I don't want ill-fitting knickers to slow down all the progress she's been making.

Thank you! 😊

Caught him cheating

So I had my suspicions, but when I checked his phone I could never find anything. Today I checked the deleted folder and the messages were all stored there…

I packed my stuff up while he slept. I feel sick to my stomach waiting for morning, so I’m just writing this to try and bring myself some clarity. It’s 2am and I’m just staring at the clock with this pit in my stomach

Feeling Unseen

I guess I’m just looking for some solidarity and to feel seen.

I’m staying with my boyfriends family for the week and it started off fine although my 14 week old isn’t sleeping great here and I’m up with her 3-5 times a night. EBF so I have to do all night feeds as. she screams if we try to give her a bottle at night.

Yesterday his family planned a day out for us including a walk and feeding ducks by a lake. I asked if I could take the buggy and they said yes it’s all tarmac so I thought oh sounds great.

Once we were walking I realised that maybe it wasn’t so short but his dad kept saying oh it’s not too bad. 3 hours later we arrived where we were walking to and then we spent another 1 hour on top of that wandering around the town/lake. I’m 14 weeks post partum and quite fit but I was exhausted. And my little one was crying because she was hungry and I’d had to breast feed walking. My boyfriend was saying you are so stressed the whole walk which wasn’t helping. It’s obvious when I’m stressed because I’m usually chilled even with a baby. I finally broke down when the only option was to feed my baby in a fish and chip shop window and when a kind lady saw me and said you are doing so well. The only act of understanding or kindness I’d received all day so the floodgates opened.

On the drive back to his familys house my baby was crying so much, she’s usually so chilled so I just felt like I’d failed her.

This morning I woke up and I just couldn’t stop crying. I feel super overwhelmed and like I’m in a house of people that don’t consider or understand what it’s like to have days out with a young baby. My boyfriend said this morning I should go to the doctors - that made me feel even worse. I’ve not cried one day since 2 weeks post partum. 1 day I’m crying because I’m overwhelmed and I’m not coping being away from home when so much is expected of me but he’s now making out I’m mentally ill. I feel so sad he doesn’t understand me and that I have to perform the role of super mum, step mum and sociable partner at all times or I need to see a doctor.