Grandparents said they aren’t willing to have my son overnight?
Both sets of grandparents are involved in my son’s life, they see him once a week, but when the topic is bought up about a potential sleepover they both are very dismissive. I know this is in their right, but I don’t understand why as they seem to both love my son so much and want to spend time with him.
My grandparents basically raised me how much I was there growing up, some nights I’d sleep over for 3 days, and my husband was the same.
Whenever I look online to see if anyone can relate, I only find people who’s parents are pretty much not involved at all, or people who are complaining their parents WANT the kids to sleepover and they refuse to allow it.
For reference both grandparents work part time (2 days a week) and are in their late 50s. People in my life have often asked me if my son sleeps over at the grandparents and when I say no they always act bewildered as to why. When we ask them why they’re very dismissive. When my son was a baby it was “not until he’s stopped needing milk”, then it was “not until he’s sleeping completely though the night”, now he is doing that it’s “not until he no longer has to wear nappies”.
Is anyone in a similar situation? My son is 2 and a half.
Please tell me I’m not a bad mum 💔
Before any comes at me, I took him to the doctors immediately to be checked over and he’s absolutely fine. I however feel sick to my stomach. I was getting ready with my little one on the bed. I ran into his room to get him some clothes, which is what I always do as he usually just stays in one spot playing. Not even a minute after I left the room, I hear a bang and an immediate cry. My angel had fallen off the bed. I don’t know how it happened and I’m an absolute idiot to have left him but it was just another day I didn’t think anything of it. My partner was at work else he would’ve been in the room with him. He cried for a couple minutes while I held him, he had nothing but a small bruise on his nose. Never have I ever had such a quick adrenaline rush. My heart has sank and I cried with him. Never again will I leave him on his own or at least on the bed on his own. I’ll always resort to the floor now unless he’s with me. I can’t stop picturing him on the floor in tears, I’m absolutely heartbroken. God please someone tell me I’m not a bad mum 😭
Vent (super long)
I just need to get this out I have nobody in my life to talk to, when I talk about it they don’t listen or care cause it’s not happening to them.. so broke up with my sons father a few months ago but I was very hesitant cause I can’t get job and I would have no one to support me but my mom kept telling not to stay and that she would help me. So I left and his dad was sending me $150 a week for groceries, diapers and baby essentials, but then he stopped. I asked him a few days ago if he could get some things for the baby and he said couldn’t cause HE needed groceries, so I had to ask my mom to buy him groceries and I feel awful for asking cause she’s struggling to pay for herself. My living situation isn’t the best I live with my mom, 2 older brothers, my brother’s wife and their son, there is also 3 dogs and 2 cats. And my oldest brother comes over all the time with his 2 kids that DESTROY our house, steal things, break things, make messes, fill the sink with dishes and I have to clean it all up, fight, yell all hours of the night, and their dad does nothing cause they aren’t bothering him, and this last weekend they destroyed the toilet so I had to keep going to the gas station to use the bathroom for almost a week. My other brother his wife and son they don’t really clean up after themselves or their dogs they piss on everything and chew the baby toys and nobody cares. My mom just complains but doesn’t do anything cause she doesn’t want to deal with it. But just the other night I dropped my car off the get the inspection and it failed I need to get new tires and get the strut fixed, it’s gonna cost over $700, and I don’t have a job to pay for it, I use my car to instacart but i haven’t had my car to myself in months my brother uses it for work cause he had to turn in his plates and then my mom just found out she has to turn in her plates for a year because of my brother so they both use my car I don’t have it during the week, so I have no source of income, I also babysit my nephew but I’m not getting paid for that cause the car used to be my brothers and the money I would make from babysitting is going to pay the car off. I’m trying to sell my pc but my nephew stole my mouse and keyboard and nobody cares they just laughed when I told them.. I’m so depressed I can’t even afford to take care of my son or even myself, I feel like an awful mom cause I’m so stressed out, I never get a break from being a mom, his dad takes him once a week for the night but he gets him right before his bedtime and I pick him up first thing in the morning cause he will call me 100 times cause he wants to go play basketball. I went out once last weekend for the first time in my entire life I stayed up until 6am and he tired to guilt me cause he couldn’t go to the gym cause I woke up at 11am. I just don’t know what to do anymore I want to leave with my son and not come back, but I can’t get a job cause of the cost of childcare and I’m also a high school drop out so I don’t have a diploma. I’m so lost I just want to give up on everything
I just needed to get it out cause I’ve been crying all day and nobody around me cares. There is so much more I could go on about but I’m not going to
