Caught him cheating

So I had my suspicions, but when I checked his phone I could never find anything. Today I checked the deleted folder and the messages were all stored there…

I packed my stuff up while he slept. I feel sick to my stomach waiting for morning, so I’m just writing this to try and bring myself some clarity. It’s 2am and I’m just staring at the clock with this pit in my stomach

in our community

Caught my boyfriend out

7 weeks since my second c section and I have just caught my partner out looking at naked girls and talking to them on his phone.

I hate my body as it is and am ashamed of it and now he’s done this..I’m so angry, I’m heart broken. I didn’t feel good enough as it was and now I feel so worthless.

Why am I not good enough, worst thing is if I hadn’t of caught him how much longer would he of lied to me😢

Please tell me I’m not a bad mum 💔

Before any comes at me, I took him to the doctors immediately to be checked over and he’s absolutely fine. I however feel sick to my stomach. I was getting ready with my little one on the bed. I ran into his room to get him some clothes, which is what I always do as he usually just stays in one spot playing. Not even a minute after I left the room, I hear a bang and an immediate cry. My angel had fallen off the bed. I don’t know how it happened and I’m an absolute idiot to have left him but it was just another day I didn’t think anything of it. My partner was at work else he would’ve been in the room with him. He cried for a couple minutes while I held him, he had nothing but a small bruise on his nose. Never have I ever had such a quick adrenaline rush. My heart has sank and I cried with him. Never again will I leave him on his own or at least on the bed on his own. I’ll always resort to the floor now unless he’s with me. I can’t stop picturing him on the floor in tears, I’m absolutely heartbroken. God please someone tell me I’m not a bad mum 😭

Influencers and homeschool

Hot take maybe?
Anyone else find it odd that social media has become so performative that we have so many mom influencers talk about homeschooling (doing learning activities) their child meanwhile the child is 2-3 years old.. like yeah I fear that’s just called parenting lol saying you’re homeschooling because you taught your kid the ABC’s is actually wild to me because why is it now being treated like going above and beyond or as if they’re making a specific choice to do these things. Like if they didn’t choose to “homeschool” (probably so they can make content about it) would they just not be teaching their kids these things lol (this obviously doesn’t apply to school age kids that are actually doing homeschool)

I guess the bigger picture is how odd it is to watch content creators make a spectacle out of everything they can so that they can make money off of it, I hope it most moms can see it for what it is and don’t feel like they aren’t doing enough.

Feeling sad my child is the only one with no supportive grandparents 😔

The mums I met at my local mum groups, my son’s nursery all seem to have at least one grandparent who regular visits and help out. I moved abroad, my parents will visit and stay in the country for 3 weeks so that was the only real break I would get. My in laws used to live 2.5 hours drive away from us but when they visited us they treated our home like a hotel and my son as a toy rather than helping with feeding a bottle or changing a nappy. They didn’t even want to go out for a pram walk. Recently they relocated to another country so they are no longer available. Also they were quite critical about how I looked after my son because of his eczema.

Before I got pregnant they kept saying they wanted a grandson. I went through 3 miscarriages and IVF in secret to finally bring them a grandson. When I walked in the parks I often see grandparents happily played with their grandchildren. What is the point of wanting to be a grandparent if there is no relationship with the grandchild? Not to mention I am stuck being a sahm because I need to apply for jobs but I am doing all the childcare. It makes me angry and sad. 😔

How can I cope not feeling sad? I see them everywhere and sometimes I feel even more lonely after going to baby/toddler sensory plays groups.

Husbands jealous/narcissist outburst

Is it even possible for a partner to think you’re “in love” with your own and only sibling because we are genuinely really close? Ever since we started dating my now husband has always complained of how close I am with my brother that today he accused me of “being in love” with my brother. To me that was the most absurd thing I’ve ever heard. My father has a family business. Since we were little my father has had this business and now as adults me 35 and my brother 31 are mostly running it. To make things short my brother and I now run the business. Well, to my husband not only am I in love with my brother but what’s more important to me “allegedly” is spending time with family then my own husband and son. At this point I can only see a narcissist speaking to me. Not my husband nor my sons father but a narcissist. It’s hard to love a person this way. The only way this seems to work is me not speaking t my brother so my husband doesn’t see my brother as a threat. Just typing this makes me sick thinking it’s actually happening. Oh and keep in mind my brother and I grew up together in the business.

Any thoughts/advice?

Vent (super long)

I just need to get this out I have nobody in my life to talk to, when I talk about it they don’t listen or care cause it’s not happening to them.. so broke up with my sons father a few months ago but I was very hesitant cause I can’t get job and I would have no one to support me but my mom kept telling not to stay and that she would help me. So I left and his dad was sending me $150 a week for groceries, diapers and baby essentials, but then he stopped. I asked him a few days ago if he could get some things for the baby and he said couldn’t cause HE needed groceries, so I had to ask my mom to buy him groceries and I feel awful for asking cause she’s struggling to pay for herself. My living situation isn’t the best I live with my mom, 2 older brothers, my brother’s wife and their son, there is also 3 dogs and 2 cats. And my oldest brother comes over all the time with his 2 kids that DESTROY our house, steal things, break things, make messes, fill the sink with dishes and I have to clean it all up, fight, yell all hours of the night, and their dad does nothing cause they aren’t bothering him, and this last weekend they destroyed the toilet so I had to keep going to the gas station to use the bathroom for almost a week. My other brother his wife and son they don’t really clean up after themselves or their dogs they piss on everything and chew the baby toys and nobody cares. My mom just complains but doesn’t do anything cause she doesn’t want to deal with it. But just the other night I dropped my car off the get the inspection and it failed I need to get new tires and get the strut fixed, it’s gonna cost over $700, and I don’t have a job to pay for it, I use my car to instacart but i haven’t had my car to myself in months my brother uses it for work cause he had to turn in his plates and then my mom just found out she has to turn in her plates for a year because of my brother so they both use my car I don’t have it during the week, so I have no source of income, I also babysit my nephew but I’m not getting paid for that cause the car used to be my brothers and the money I would make from babysitting is going to pay the car off. I’m trying to sell my pc but my nephew stole my mouse and keyboard and nobody cares they just laughed when I told them.. I’m so depressed I can’t even afford to take care of my son or even myself, I feel like an awful mom cause I’m so stressed out, I never get a break from being a mom, his dad takes him once a week for the night but he gets him right before his bedtime and I pick him up first thing in the morning cause he will call me 100 times cause he wants to go play basketball. I went out once last weekend for the first time in my entire life I stayed up until 6am and he tired to guilt me cause he couldn’t go to the gym cause I woke up at 11am. I just don’t know what to do anymore I want to leave with my son and not come back, but I can’t get a job cause of the cost of childcare and I’m also a high school drop out so I don’t have a diploma. I’m so lost I just want to give up on everything

I just needed to get it out cause I’ve been crying all day and nobody around me cares. There is so much more I could go on about but I’m not going to