Marriage counselling- divorce

Hi , has anyone had any success with marriage counselling? I’ve been married to my husband for 4 years (together for 7)we share two young children a 2.5 year old and an 8 month old.

Having our second has certainly shown the cracks in our relationship and how lazy he is, he never helps with household chores, no get up and go (he tried to convert the garage left it in a right mess for years (unusable) I inherited some money so paid 20k for it to be sorted.

he is chronically ill with no diagnosis and needs to rest & watch tv when the kids have a nap whilst I’m doing jobs! I’ve now reached the point of compassionate fatigue as I carry the weight of everything. He’s started belittling me and treats me like I’m stupid - even my family and friends have picked up on this. I’m honestly so fed up now I shouldn’t be feeling like this so soon , it used to make me sad now it just angers me. I’m thinking the first step should be marriage counselling as it is in all our interests to make this work. Has anybody got any advice or a similar story?

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HONESTLY…. Am I the only mom that did not know to enroll in public kindergarten you so it in the spring (February-April) ?
I did not even know to do it in july

I also do not get how this means I could possibly not see the school or meet the teacher prior to sending her! I do not want to be disruptive I wish I had known how it worked😭

Does a man need to wash his hands after he pees?

My man thinks since he didn’t touch anything apart from pants and holding it in place, that he doesn’t need to use soap to wash his hands, will only rinse. Sometimes I catch him not washing his hands at all and I make him do it 🤢 is that normal? How to get him to do it without mothering him each time

He’s acting like nothing happened

Husband was caught cheating and moved out last week. Real cocky too cuz she was gonna let him move in with her. Well she found out he had a family (she was a victim in this too), and she left him. She messaged me a huge apology and swore she really didn’t know until she introduced him to her friends and her besties bd recognized him. Came home tonight and he’s just standing in the kitchen washing dishes (he never washed dishes once in the 6 years we’ve been together) and smiles and says “hey baby, how was your day?” And the kids obviously get so excited to see him so I bit my tongue in front of them. But now he’s just in the kitchen organizing the junk drawer and calling me babe and being like everything is normal while I get them ready for bed. He came in and even asked me if I’d like him to have a glass of wine waiting for me in the kitchen and kissed my head while the kids were watching.

I feel like I’m in some fever dream like did we not break up and he moved out?? Did he really think this tactic would work? Like what is even happening!?? What am I even supposed to say to him when I go out there?

“Hey I don’t know what all this is but you need to leave. We can’t just pretend none of this happened.” Is about all I got, but I am soo weak for him i don’t trust myself to have this conversation and actually make him leave, but I don’t want him to stay either.

Feeling like I’m ready to leave the relationship or am I over reacting and being too much? Please as much advice as possible x

I need some honest advice. I’ve been with my partner for 4 years and we have two children, including a 4-month-old. I’ve been telling him for months, even years, how unhappy and lonely I am, but nothing changes.

Over the last couple of months my trust has completely gone. He’s constantly looking at other women when we’re out, has lusted over women online, watched porn behind my back and I’ve seen things on his phone that have really hurt me. Yet the other day he wouldn’t even go out with me because I wore a casual black top with no bra. I have E boobs, but it genuinely wasn’t revealing. He said it was disrespectful because men would look at me.

He never wants to give me affection. There’s no cuddling, kissing or flirting. He’s always in the bathroom vaping, on his phone or doing his own thing. I’m finding myself begging for attention, affection and reassurance, and honestly I’m embarrassed that I’ve got to this point. I have to fish for compliments and he says, “We’ve been together ages, why are you always fishing for compliments?” I just don’t feel wanted at all.

I’m with the kids most of the time and feel completely unsupported. When we argue, he speaks to me horribly. I’ve cried right in front of him and he’s ignored me, even calling my tears “crocodile tears.”

The worst part is I think I’ve genuinely fallen out of love. We went out recently and I was bored, we had sex and I felt completely emotionally disconnected. I’m constantly crying and feel incredibly lonely despite being in a relationship.

I’ve now told him I want to end it, but he won’t accept it and carries on like everything is normal telling me I’d be “throwing this away over my little episodes”

Am I genuinely done, or am I just exhausted and postpartum?

Idk what to do?!?

I honestly feel so alone. My partner makes me feel like he despises me. He’s always being negative when it comes to me and him. He’s always telling me that I don’t love him, always twist my words , gets overly angry for some nonsense like who drank the last soda . I’m starting to become cold with him and to him that’s a problem . He even got upset at me when I expressed how he always expects sexual favors and how they becoming to feel like another chore. We have our moments where things are good but lately it’s been like he hates to come home to me . He doesn’t like to kiss me anymore. Anytime I ask for a kiss he gives me a petty one or just ask why??!?! We just reached 5 years… I’ve asked if he’s falling out of love with me , he said no and I told him to be really honest .. he took a big pause and I said I didn’t wanna finish the conversation due to going out for a family day with our daughter . Idk if I need advice or I’m here to vent but all I wanna do is shut down but ik I can’t.

Aita? Please read before voting. Reposted as I read it and it didn't make sense

A few weeks ago my friend put on the school mums group chat to ask if we wanted to meet up in a park somewhere I'd never been before it's like in the peak district somewhere. I replied and said we will come as no one else did. She said that's great and she would take us as I can't drive.

Yesterday she messaged me privately and said she can't take us because she's visiting a relative in hospital after going to the park. I said it's fine I've got my sister's kids anyway and we wont be able to get there. My sisters mil has been admitted into the cancer unit for end of life care. My friend knew this.

Yesterday she put on the group chat if anyone else wanted to come and no one replied. She then said very late on that she can't go anyway because of a family emergency. I messaged her privately and asked if she was okay. She said she had to wait in for a parcel for said relative who is in hospital (relative is fine btw but my friend is dissapointed that she couldn't take her son to the park. The parcel is the "family emergency" she posted on the group chat)

I replied and said that I was sorry about having to cancel and I hope her relative is okay (shes fine and recovering) here if she needed anything etc. My sisters mil is actively dying in the cancer suite and she didn't want her boys to whitness it. That's why I've got them today. My youngest nephew is nonverbal and autistic and it's not fair on the eldest to care for him whilst I struggle to take them to a place they've never been before with my son who has his own health issues. I explained that I'm feeling the pressure too as I'm planning my sisters baby shower whilst suffering from a late chemical pregnancy. I finished the message with, sending you lots of love.

She replied with "thanks" nothing else. So she either didn't read my message properly (she knew I was in the early stages of pregnancy as I showed her the positive test, my sister is also heavily pregnant and due next month so I'm supporting her too)

Or she just doesn't give a shit. The last time she didn't give a shit she said "it's not my fault your mum died" on the anniversary of my mums death. So I messaged her and said that she either didn't read my message or she doesn't care. Which is it? It sounds harsh but I'm also suffering a massive loss whilst trying to support my sister and my "friend" just isn't interested in the slightest.

Am I the ah for calling he tout bevause I'm sick of her BS. For clarification waiting in for the parcel was the emergency. It just messed up the plans for the day. That's literally what she told me in the private message (not the group one)