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advice (long one)

there’s a lot of things that my partner says i don’t do like he said yesterday when have i ever considered him before making a decision, to which i answered i don’t know, what kind of decision.. what decision requires me to consider him only if i go out somewhere.
he says i don’t care if i let him sleep or not when, (he sleeps in the afternoon when the kids are awake we live in a flat which means they’re confined to one room for most of the day just so he sleeps which makes no sense to me and for them is impossible they wanna play in their bedroom where their other toys are they wanna run up and down🤷🏽‍♀️)
he says i don’t respect him, he says i don’t love him i only love what he does for me,
he says i’m selfish and inconsiderate because he might ask me to do things for him and i dont do it or i forget because i am forgetful..
i dont cook food for him that he likes to eat(he eats african food).. he says i dont do anything for him,
ive been bleeding for a while from contraception but sex has always been a problem where he says i dont always do it when he asks, but when i want to do it,he does, even if he doesn’t want to (which i say he doesn’t have to)
i feel like there’s a lot of times where in a relationship the man is the problem, but I feel like this time it’s mainly me and I’m not sure exactly how to fix it. like maybe i am the problem maybe i’m too young maybe i don’t know how to love and respect and care for a man but surely not, i just am confused
am i with the wrong person or do i just need to love him better, does he need to love me better so im return i will change too.
maybe its because he works so much maybe it’s just that I don’t feel like I’m getting enough time from him enough support and care from him but he could say the same too, i think we prioritise different things like he prioritises work over everything and making money i prioritise family, and quality time spent together, or with our kids and he would rather not and would rather do those things “when he’s rich”