I feel like I regret having my daughter

I don’t need judgement. I just need to get this off my chest and maybe someone out there will understand and have some guidance for me
I went from having a sweet cuddly baby to a child that actively acts out.
I’m not talking normal act outs. I’m talking 20-30 screaming hitting meltdown tantrums a day. I’ve tried everything. Being comforting and kind. Time outs. Loud reprimand. Even spanking. I have tried everything that I’ve found. All suggestions. I’m at a complete loss. She just turned two. And all I can think of is how much she reminds me of her father. He had borderline personality disorder he also abandoned us when I was pregnant. His son I recall also had very big issues with temper. And now I hate being a mom. I spend so many of her meltdowns now just crying wondering what I did so wrong to make her so mean and hateful of me. She’s also totally different around other people that don’t live in the household… I love my baby girl but this is all too much and I don’t know how to fix it…

in our community

Plan B or no?

Please I know I’m a dumb ass so let me just say that. My husband included. I’m 6 weeks post partum, ok to have sex again. My husband and I proceeded to have sex last night for the first time again and he did not pull out. He didn’t mean to because immediately after he realized he messed up. In his defense, we have never pulled out BUT that’s also why we have to kids close in age. However, we are done having kids and I’m going to be tying my tubes. Yes he’s still a jack ass for that and so am I.

Point is man, should I take a plan B or what should I do? :(

Finding out I’m pregnant again 5months postpartum…

So around 5 weeks ago I found out I am pregnant again. My baby is nearly 6 months now and when the second is born she will be around 13/14 months old I’m absolutely terrified as she was a c section baby and I know I’m probably going to have another c section….
She is breast fed also …

Has anyone else out there been through this already having 2 under 2 year olds, how hard is it??

any one got suggestions about stopping breast feeding before birth so second baby can have the boobs exclusively or should I start pumping and just give bottle breast milk to older child and the new born? Just looking for advice and suggestions really…

Baby boys playing with babies

What’s everyone’s opinions on boys playing with baby dolls. My little boy who’s 10 months loves playing with his baby dolls and my dad (baby’s granddad) said he shouldn’t be and he should be playing with “boys toys” I told him it will make him more caring and he will grow up to be the best dad himself. He really disagrees

4:30am wake up for cereal and tantrums

2 nights in a row now, he’s woken up from
Co sleeping with us (he’s had two weeks of being sick and just wanted to keep an eye on him) he’s woken up at 4:30am screaming like he’s in pain and pointing to our stairs. We found out he’s doing that because he is hungry….. any tips on to avoid this 4am wake up session to eat?

Also tantrums. How are we handling them? He’s only 16 months old and he’s throwing fits like he is 2, with little stompies and backing up, can’t tell if he is in pain but he’s been chomping on his fingers more lately and apparently holding his jaw according to my sister, so I’m thinking he’s teething and that’s causing him to wake and scream constantly.

VACCINATIONS

Is anyone’s baby not having their jabs? Or does anyone know anyone who has made the decision not to?
Unsure whether to take her.. unsure whether I trust them.

Dropping the dummy

Hi ladies any advice for dropping the dummy I find it’s more hassle than it’s worth and my baby just doesn’t keep it in but wakes when it comes out. She seems to want it but is becoming dependent on it in quite an unhelpful way. My first didn’t have one so this is all new territory. I wouldn’t mind her having it for comfort but the constant dropping it and then waking isn’t really doing that.