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I would switch places with him in a heartbeat. He gets to work from home and be with the baby, while I work full-time in the office. I only had one month of maternity leave and was able to work from home for an additional month, but by two months old, I had to return to the office and leave our daughter with her dad and in-laws.
Now she’s almost five months old, and he complains frequently about how difficult it is. His mom is often there to help, but she struggles with the baby too. He seems increasingly frustrated, and I’m worried it’s going to affect his mental health or our relationship.

Would it be better to just put her in daycare? I really don’t want to because I’m worried about her getting sick, and I have a hard time trusting other people with her because I love her so much. But am I being selfish by refusing daycare when it seems like he’s struggling to handle everything?

What would you do?

What's should I honestly say

So my husband is struggling at work and in his personal life, and I he will off load it to me as his wife which I am fine with but I don't know what I should do actually, it's a lot for me because the personal stuff being going on a while, work has just begun to grate on him.
Work, we knew his job would be hard as he has long days traveling to from work as he can work anywhere in the country and stay over for up to a week at a time, it's been ok up till now, his work has so much work to do and probably need more staff but that's management to decide, he was told for a while they would try and keep him local, they have not, he is currently up north till Friday night and the has a job down south for a week, he's not happy as he's left me and the baby at home, I can't always go with him because of money as I have to travel separately because of the equipment he needs as well, he doesn't really like it and the traveling is tiring him out and few other stresses with the job, he's been with the company for eight years and is now on the fence is he should go, we knew he work away but the length of time is unfair for me as well, but I don't know what to say to him I feel like he's got to come to that want to move to another job on his own but the company before the baby were really good with him.
Then there the personal so my husband isn't very sociable and only has two friends and me really, his one friend disappears for a month at a time, no texts or anything but when he does meet up hes always paying for meals or getting really lovely present for special occasions and is a really nice guy, I think he's got a lot on and sometimes I noticed if it's not what he wants then he doesn't do it, his other friend is now engaged and only appears when he wants a drink and at last minute, he's stopped texting about sports with my husband or if they planning on meeting up his friend can rearrange because something like a free meal with his parents has come up, or another friend has asked him something. My husband talks to me all the time about them and work and honestly it tiring as I give him advice but he somehow doesn't take it , I didn't know what else to say to him and I just try and listen and plan days out as a family to try and help, is there anything else I can do apart from being there a listening to all of it on repeat