Birth experience
I’m struggling to process how my birth actually went. I laboured for around 30hrs my waters went after 12 but then he pooed inside me at around 6am. I was only 1cm dilated and was put onto pitocin drip straight away and was maxed out on that for 8hrs. I had pethidine about 3 hrs in and then it sadly wore off a good two hours before I actually gave birth. I was pushing for almost two hrs and ended up with a 3b tear and unfortunately my baby got handed off to dad and I was wheeled away to theatre straight away. I was then given a spinal block and was paralysed until the next day so I have no idea how much blood loss there was but I do know it was a lot. I don’t know the depth of the tear but I do know that almost 4 months post partum I can’t have sex without it hurting… I was told it healed really well by the midwife and never had a follow up appointment.
I think because I was so spaced out on the pain and so focused on getting him out I never thought about myself but looking back now and knowing what I went through and how close it was to becoming an emergency section I am just struggling to put it into perspective, was it traumatic? Was it normal? I just have no idea how I’m supposed to feel about it.
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Literally same! I had a membrane sweep done without me knowing bcs the doctor was heavily Russian I believe it was or polish STRONG accent we couldn’t understand him at all and spoke so fast literally did the membrane sweep it was the worst pain I thought he was just doing his reg checks like how he was before all the other times NO! Then the PAIN immediately after arg! Then my epidural experience was the worst I had to get it 8 times EIGHT I had to do physical therapy after from all the epidural stuffs screwed my nerves afterwards and I couldn’t walk properly for like a month or two but now I have some back issues out the butt 🥲 it’s something that rly sucks but for some reason I can’t put myself back into that I don’t remember completely and I don’t rlly think abt it maybe like how u said all the body trauma then find myself wanting another lol
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