Sex - Drama and Relationship

My partner if he does not have sex for like 3 days becomes really nasty. We havnt had sex in 2 weeks because of the school holidays and camping trip. He has become so vile. Hes critical, threatening to kick me out because i wont resolve (his word fr sex), telling me i am a joke and he is going to find sex elsewhere and all sorts of shit. He is aggressive and mean and turns into hulk.

I have no emotional connection with him and when i told him that he turned it around stating what about his needs for sex. He then went on to say he aint doing shit for me.

I am also 20 weeks pregnant with our second and startinf to feel very uncomfortable in my own body.

Im scared to just walk out because im pregnant but i cant put up with the nasty things he says just because he isnt getting sex.

At the end of the camping trip he even disowned his eldest daugther and she landed up leaving at 8pm at night. (She is 13).

I just feel so stuck and lost.

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Since you can’t walk away just Treat him like shit with a cute smile on your face and be sweet to him when he’s nice . See him as a dog and train him

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I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, you absolutely do not deserve this treatment in any way. But if you don’t mind me asking, how was he after your first child? There’s a 6-8week healing period after giving birth, did he disrespect you then, too? I’m only asking because he sounds like he has a sex addiction.

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This is an awful situation. If he can disown his older child what's stopping him doing the same with your two in future? It sounds like he's bordering into physical abuse and it won't be long before he crosses that line. If it was me I'd be finding a way out. He's already threatened to kick you out multiple times, take him up on it next time he says it, just calmly pack a bag and don't say anything. Tell him you'll be back for your things tomorrow and go to your parents.

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This is so so abusive and I agree on sexual coercion and I know that must be awful to hear and accept but that is because it is awful. I would take my child/children and the letter, texts and any evidence of his behaviour and go to the police and get help and even emergency accomodation if you need to. Protect them kids.. as the way I see it is his abusive already and he would be worse and more dangerous if you say no so you do what you can to keep the peace but that is not ok. I'm here if you want to private message me. X

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This is absolutely disgusting and I’m so sorry you’re dealing with his especially being pregnant. He’s a horrible monster he does not even have simple respect for you so the only time it’s gained is when his sexual needs are met. Are you a piece of object to him and are only useful for sex. The fact he can scoop your emotional and confidence to the lowest for no apparent reason is disturbing. He’s not a real man. As man he can’t even control his feelings, no sense of protection towards his partner that’s pregnant. But I just read he’s always been like this which obviously that’s who he is. It’s for you to decide if you want to keep producing, living and allow your children to live in this toxic environment. He’s threatens to find sex elsewhere just shows unfortunately you’re only good and worthy of sex to him. What’s the difference between his partner and a sex worker?

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I have no emotional connection with him and when i told him that he turned it around stating what about his needs for sex. He then went on to say he aint doing shit for me.

I am also 20 weeks pregnant with our second and startinf to feel very uncomfortable in my own body.

Im scared to just walk out because im pregnant but i cant put up with the nasty things he says just because he isnt getting sex.

At the end of the camping trip he even disowned his eldest daugther and she landed up leaving at 8pm at night. (She is 13).

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