i snapped
I dropped my baby off to stay with her dad for one night and I went out with friends.
For some reason, I couldn’t bring myself to come pick her up the next day and didn’t come back for another two days.
During that time, I just spent time with friends, basically partying and on a bender. I didn’t do any drugs. I did drink alcohol though..
I also didn’t eat or sleep.
I feel like a terrible mother.
For any kind of context that it may be, a very close friend of mine passed away. My baby was born July 1. I’ve been doing this alone.
Being postpartum, losing a friend and just getting out of this relationship with the baby daddy has been very hard on me.
he cheated on me, but stayed with me while I was pregnant. I’ve never been treated so horrible by another individual than the way he treated me while I was pregnant.
While pregnant, he told me to *off* myself and called me names. He got angry at me when I cried. he slept with me every night while talking to this other woman, and I knew. He wouldn’t touch me. He wouldn’t look at me. We never spent time together. He found an excuse every single day to leave the house.
everything that used to make me feel comfortable, doesn’t anymore.
i’m 26 years old getting a divorce and being a single mom and I know it’s for the better and everything’s gonna make sense one day but I was a bad mother for a few days.
I snapped.
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Lovely, have you spoken to anyone? A fuck up doesn’t make you a bad mum! But it’s good you can see where you need to do better 🩵 please speak to someone! They can help you xx
I don’t think you’re a bad mother .. I think you’re entitled to free time and whatever you do in that free time shouldn’t matter to anyone especially since you been doing things all alone .. currently in a similar situation I almost have to force my kids dad to watch them but when he does I go do whatever the hell I want bc I’m with 3 kids all day everyday by myself losing my mind so enjoy yourself and do it again🥳
You have a lot on your shoulders, that is very clear. But he also participated in making your child, so he has to take up more responsibility at this point. But I do worry, however, that if he was treating you like that during your pregnancy, that he won't take out his frustrations on your child when you aren't around either. It's unfortunately very common. Please make sure to talk to a professional, but just know that I don't think you're a bad mom, you're still fairly young and trying to navigate a lot of hard and scary moments all at once, while having to simultaneously and continuously show up for an infant. That's hard. But seeing a professional will ease at least some of that hardness and the expectations being put on you. Sending so much love your way, momma!
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i snapped
I dropped my baby off to stay with her dad for one night and I went out with friends.
For some reason, I couldn’t bring myself to come pick her up the next day and didn’t come back for another two days.
During that time, I just spent time with friends, basically partying and on a bender. I didn’t do any drugs. I did drink alcohol though..
I also didn’t eat or sleep.
I feel like a terrible mother.
For any kind of context that it may be, a very close friend of mine passed away. My baby was born July 1. I’ve been doing this alone.
Being postpartum, losing a friend and just getting out of this relationship with the baby daddy has been very hard on me.
he cheated on me, but stayed with me while I was pregnant. I’ve never been treated so horrible by another individual than the way he treated me while I was pregnant.
While pregnant, he told me to *off* myself and called me names. He got angry at me when I cried. he slept with me every night while talking to this other woman, and I knew. He wouldn’t touch me. He wouldn’t look at me. We never spent time together. He found an excuse every single day to leave the house.
everything that used to make me feel comfortable, doesn’t anymore.
i’m 26 years old getting a divorce and being a single mom and I know it’s for the better and everything’s gonna make sense one day but I was a bad mother for a few days.
I snapped.
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