If I can’t be trusted with my partners phone should I just withhold sex.
I am a teacher my boyfriend pays for ChatGPT so I used up all my free chats so I asked him if I could borrow his phone to finish off my lesson planning he then proceeds to tell me no he can’t trust me with his phone. I get it’s a personal choice to let someone see or use your phone. However it just triggered me in a sense to why can’t you trust me with it? Is there something worth hiding that I can’t see or use your phone? I didn’t say anything I just said okay and walked off. Then I was just thinking like maybe withhold sex and maybe focus on stuff that could build the trust between each other more bc while I don’t care to have the password to his phone but I can’t marry a man that can’t trust me to use his phone for whatever reason (we’ve been together for 5 years now) we don’t have each others phone password which is cool but just when I asked to use it for something and get hit with I’m not trusted is just alarming because the only thing I can think of a person being guarded with their phone is due to them trying to hide something🤷🏽♀️
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yea i’ve never liked a guy who be secretive behind that phone, yall been together too long to not know each other stuff tbh there’s a certain transparency you put out there if you know there’s nothing to really hide.

I meannnn you can with hold sex but I wouldn’t say for this specific reason unless he’s asking for that often than I’d understand that part but anywhooo I feel you on feeling alarmed cuz what’s making him feel like he can’t trust you ?? And that’s crazy to say right off the bat as well but do be careful with that cuz they did make a new thing where you can get charged for checking your partners phone if they don’t give you that access which is crazy to me but I would go talk to him and ask him why In curiosity cuz there’s no way he’s just feeling like that off rip if you didn’t give him that vibe of your untrustworthy after 5yrs together

since you a teacher beat him with a book till he give you the knowledge you seek🧚🏾♀️ don’t withhold sex bc that’s basically saying you don’t deserve dick

Why are we using ChatGPT for lesson planning 😭
But yeah he’s hiding something

Id suggest therapy solo for both of you.

He’s definitely hiding something. You’ve been together 5 years yet he can’t trust u with his phone?!! Make that make sense.

he os almost telling u he cant be trusted
hes hiding something he doesnt want u to see. But of course he is gonna use the
dum excuse bs lie that u cant be trusted with his phone really 5 years together and u cant b trusted ?more like he cant b trusted .

p.s you wothholding sex has nothing to do with the bigger problem here

I had one singular guy refuse to ever let me use his phone, and if I needed to call someone using it he would ask for their number.
Guess who was the only one that cheated?

Saying he doesn't trust you is a little much without any reason given but trust aside, some people just don't like their stuff touched or gone through. They like their privacy. I know I let my husband go through my phone or use it when he wants but it's always uncomfortable for me. He's the same way. He'll question why I need his phone but will give it to me to use.
I found out my husband was cheating during pregnancy and postpartum. Now I don’t ask for sex, I avoid conversations about our relationship. I don’t give a fuck anymore. He says I’ve been rude and don’t care if he’s dead or alive.
What else can I do to make his life a living hell?
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Elllooo! I need some ideas please
My little lads first birthday is the middle of November and then we blink and it’s Christmas.
So for Christmas it’s confirmed he’s getting a tonie box 2 bundle from nanar, a metal DIY busy book and building blocks from Mamar and we’re gonna get him one of those remote control cars that we control and little bits to open of course.
What do we get for his birthday?! Because it’s all so close we’re unsure what to get a 1 year old plus he’s getting quite big Christmas presents.
He’s quite advanced already so it needs to be something interesting and cool.
Any suggestions? Thank you 🥺
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hi mamas!
Im currently 3 months postpartum. During pregnancy i was always moody and angry so me and my partner were really struggling with each other. He left two weeks postpartum and i had to put him on child support. I found out i was being cheated in while pregnant and after birth. Today we met and he told me that he wants my forgiveness and to go live with his mum and him until
he buys his apartment next year . Im really hurt by him but i still love him and want my family. What should i do

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I dropped my baby off to stay with her dad for one night and I went out with friends.
For some reason, I couldn’t bring myself to come pick her up the next day and didn’t come back for another two days.
During that time, I just spent time with friends, basically partying and on a bender. I didn’t do any drugs. I did drink alcohol though..
I also didn’t eat or sleep.
I feel like a terrible mother.
For any kind of context that it may be, a very close friend of mine passed away. My baby was born July 1. I’ve been doing this alone.
Being postpartum, losing a friend and just getting out of this relationship with the baby daddy has been very hard on me.
he cheated on me, but stayed with me while I was pregnant. I’ve never been treated so horrible by another individual than the way he treated me while I was pregnant.
While pregnant, he told me to *off* myself and called me names. He got angry at me when I cried. he slept with me every night while talking to this other woman, and I knew. He wouldn’t touch me. He wouldn’t look at me. We never spent time together. He found an excuse every single day to leave the house.
everything that used to make me feel comfortable, doesn’t anymore.
i’m 26 years old getting a divorce and being a single mom and I know it’s for the better and everything’s gonna make sense one day but I was a bad mother for a few days.
I snapped.
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