Guilt over leaving children so late

I was 37 when I had my daughter. Here are a few positives to having late in life kids for you to think about:

1) at 40, you're probably in a much better place financially than you were at 20. You've had time to accumulate wealth, and assets, probably a career or at least a partner with a solid career. Later in life parents are generally able to provide a much more stable childhood, with opportunities to travel and experiences that they might never have had at 20.

2) older adults are generally more emotionally mature, which makes you a much better role model for your child. You've had a lot more life experience, and wisdom that you'll be able to share that you wouldn't have had at a younger age.

3) older parents actually tend to live longer! Believe it or not. Having kids later in life seems to keep people younger. Possibly because chasing around a toddler and young child is a good way to stay fit, but also because we want to be around as long as possible for our kids, and invest in health to reflect that.

I hope this helps!

I'll be 36 when my baby is born, and I'm so glad I waited. The me that I was at any point previous to now didn't understand myself nearly as well, didn't have nearly as much patience and compassion as I do now, had all the wrong ideas about what life was really about. My kid will now have a life that is much fuller and much more greatly enriched by my life experience than any would have had when I was younger. I'm so glad I got to get all my wiggles out and feel really ready to focus on a family life now.

I was 38 when I had my son and honestly I don't think about when I leave this world. I'm enjoying life as I'm living it. I'm living my dream because I'm a mom to an adorable boy and a wife to an amazing man. I work in taking care of myself so that I can be here as long as I can so I can enjoy life. I say don't fret about the end but enjoy the now. You getting about the end is stealing your joy from the now.

Also it want possible to have kids earlier as I was dealing with Infertility also had an abusive ex, so glad I didn't have kids with him.

But like I said don't cry about the future, enjoy the now and work on your health if you feel like you need to so you can be there for him late in life. 😊

Just plan as much as possible. Make sure you have a life insurance policy and designated person to care for them if something happens to you. Take care of your health and properly plan out retirement.

Things to consider….

A trust to protect your assets for your lil one. A will. Beneficiaries on all bank accounts. A person designated to take child if something happens to you and all legalities officialized. College fund. Trust fund.

Life isnt what it used to be. People are building their communities and even cutting off “blood relatives” due to toxicity. Help your child build their community of safe people they can trust beyond you. Thats for all of us mothers to do because life isnt promised to any of us.

My parents had me at 40 and I had my children later on life too. I lost my dad a few years ago when he was 76 (I was 36) and my mum is still going strong at 80! My only regret in having children later is that my dad never got to meet my second born. Anything can happen to us at any point, having children earlier doesn't necessarily mean that you will get to be around for longer x

I had my second at 36. Can’t say I’m even thinking about death yet! I’m 46 now. The only downside is I might not have long with grandchildren or be fit and healthy when she has them especially if she has them in her 30s. I can’t say my age effects anything as we’ve had a very active summer holidays. The only thing you can do is try and live a healthy life.

I'm 43 and I cry a lot. But it wasnt my intention to wait so long. I had miscarriages, failed ivf, operations etc. Still..I feel guilty so I understand you totally. But having kids early doesnt guarantee anything. People die early in theor lives too. I have intrusive thoughts about this. I see myself saying goodbye to my daughter. She's only 6 weeks. I struggle a lot.

Stoppppp my love, stop worrying over something you have absolutely no control over. You have your child when you know you will be the best mother to the
Lots of people have kids young and die young, my mom is almost 60 and her mom and grandma is still alive, my dads parents both died when he was he was in his early 20s

You cannot predict this thing and don’t let all this uncle rhetoric circulating social media make you feel like a bad mom. Enjoy the time you have with her, do your best to stay healthy and strong , make adequate financial planning and have fun

Tomorrow is never a given, so please just try to enjoy the present moment. I know a couple of mums that died at a young age (early 20s), leaving behind their young children.

Whether you're 30 or 40, it doesn't matter. Just cherish what you have right now, live your life to the fullest ✨️ 💯

Also, my dad's parents died when he was in his 20s. My mums parents died when she was in her 50s and 60s. We all die one day, but again, tomorrow is never a given, so enjoy what you have

My guilt at leaving it so late; (but was also told I’d never have children) is that my son may end up an only child and feel lonely like I did, I would like to try for another ASAP but husband is on the fence due to money issues, that’s my only guilt, I’m 40 this year so basically running out of time.

Honestly we don't get to choose when that happens. I think we all have our babies when it's meant to be. All we have to do is make sure we raise them to be great humans yes they might still need us but we have to make sure they're strong enough to be able to do without us. Right now I'm 37 and have health issues I do dialysis. Everyday I wake up I'm lucky to be here. I dont even know if I will see my kids be in their 40s and I have a special needs child at that as well. But I try not to think of the negatives and enjoy the time I do have with them