I'm just wondering what people are doing with their other kids, when they go into labour and need to go into the hospital? I have a 21 month old, we have no close family near us to help. Nursery have agreed to have her in even if its not a day she normally does, but what do we do on a weekend? Or an evening? Hire a babysitter? Feels like a one off kind of situation...
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I would see if you can hire a babysitter, maybe look into well known babysitters around your area and explain the situation, ask if there’s any was they could be available at the drop of a hat, maybe offer double pay for the trouble or something.

Do you go to toddler groups? Are you close to any of the mums? Maybe it’s worth asking one of the toddler mums that your close too, if they would be open to help out especially if they have a child around the same age! X

Our nearest family are a couple of hours away and will be making the drive across once I go into labour. We also have some friends nearby who can take our toddler if I need to go into hospital shorter notice before family can arrive.

Our childminder offers babysitting or to keep them overnight. Does anyone at your nursery babysit?
We have asked a friend if they can help in a real emergency as well
I am having my first child in December and currently getting things for the nursery.
Do you think nursing chairs are needed?

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(Forgot to make it a poll)
I keep thinking that if the roles were reversed, I would be such a better husband. I feel like I'm a lot more thoughtful than my husband, I get him small things from the store or a food he's been "craving" while I'm the one thats pregnant! I cook 100% of the time and clean 95%. I dont work so I guess he beats me on that. We have a 3 year old and only one car so I'm stuck with a baby while 7 months pregnant. When my husband comes home, he asks to take a nap, which I say yes nearly 100% of the time because I know how exhausted the day can make us. I just feel sad because I dont get offered a back massage or a foot massage. Like ever. Or a small gift. Or a "thanks for carrying my child!" Like I don't even feel pregnant and I feel a little taken advantage of.
He says he just forgets or doesnt think about me all the time and am I insane for being hurt by that??
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Baby girl was born on Monday evening at 22.35 after a rather long, exhausting labour (she just didn’t want to come into the world that day)! We were discharged yesterday and have been home since, to be honest last night wasn’t even so bad. Today however, she’s been feeding almost all day (cluster feeding, sometimes for an hour and a half, other times for 10 min!) and since I’m breastfeeding I have some “cracking” problems, as well as latch and attachment issues, which the midwives will call me about tomorrow morning. We gave her formula a few times as well and she just seems constantly hungry, so I of course panic I don’t produce enough collostrum (milk hasn’t come in yet)!to keep her full. I’m sore all over, totally inlove with her and totally overwhelmed. Every time she cries, I cry and I constantly worry if she’s getting enough to eat. My husband is my absolute hero and rock and the best dad ever. I just feel..alone in the motherly feelings and hormones and emotions I’m going through and honestly don’t know how to not panic. Also, how to keep her warm enough? Different midwives told us different things and it’s all just so confusing. 😭
I apologize for the long post 😕 many mothers around offered advice and help, I just don’t feel like I can text them at 1.30am and melt down…

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So my son is 3 months 2 weeks and he’s been very fussy these past few days wanting to be held all the time crying more often more hungry and I know it will be because his brain is developing and all the changes from hitting another milestone I’m just wanting some advice on how to cope with the crying things that can help settle quicker and how to manage your mum feelings to I feel so guilty and frustrated myself when he cry’s because I hate to see him so upset and sometimes I can’t help but think it’s something I did any tricks advice and words of wisdom help so much thankyou ❤️😊

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Hi all! Just wondering if anyone in the area wants to go for a coffee or walkies any time?
I really need to get out the house and meet people, go out and do stuff! I unfortunately don’t have a car and haven’t been able to use much public transport as it’s been giving me major anxiety but I’ll try my best to travel to anywhere local! SW area 🫶

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I'm just wondering what people are doing with their other kids, when they go into labour and need to go into the hospital? I have a 21 month old, we have no close family near us to help. Nursery have agreed to have her in even if its not a day she normally does, but what do we do on a weekend? Or an evening? Hire a babysitter? Feels like a one off kind of situation...
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