Some advice (trying my best ❤️)

So my son is 3 months 2 weeks and he’s been very fussy these past few days wanting to be held all the time crying more often more hungry and I know it will be because his brain is developing and all the changes from hitting another milestone I’m just wanting some advice on how to cope with the crying things that can help settle quicker and how to manage your mum feelings to I feel so guilty and frustrated myself when he cry’s because I hate to see him so upset and sometimes I can’t help but think it’s something I did any tricks advice and words of wisdom help so much thankyou ❤️😊

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Nursery being truthful?

I feel like the nursery my lo goes to isn't 100% truthful about the food they offer. They have this whole menu they advertise when you walk around which shows things like fish pie or shephards pie but then in the notes it will say my little one ate cheesy mash or today on pick up they said she refused 'party food' which was chicken nuggets, crisps etc... I look in the app and it says on the menu today is cauliflower and macaroni cheese...

Nursery fees for 2 year olds

We have been told by my daughter’s nursery that the monthly fees are going to jump from 141 a month to 503 a month after 30 hours funding (and before tax free childcare). This is such a huge jump! I queried why, and it’s because the government pay less per hour apparently for over 2 year olds. But now I’m looking online it’s because of the staff ratio is less. Has anyone else had this experience or is it just our nursery?

I’m struggling with myself and my partner, in need of some advice or reassurance

My partner doesn’t seem to enjoy my company like he used to I feel. I’ve been going through a lot lately with plans, our daughter, I’m trying to get back into shape, taking care of the house and keeping him happy. Not to mention I’ve been trying to be involved in planning for my sisters Bridal shower and wedding. Lately I’ve just lost control and I’ve had an attitude with him because I feel a little resentment. When we go out I’m always busy taking care of the baby while he has fun. I’m always home but I’m always busy, he comes home and does what ever he wants to do but I’m always catering to him and taking care of things around the house. He tells me that these things can wait, but if any of you know, if you fall behind on house chores they get waaaay too out of control and it’s hard to catch up.. Am I being the victim?? Do I just have a victim mindset?? I just want him to notice the things I do.

I noticed something the other day, that he remembered that I promised sex because I was too tired. I said that I’d make it up to him and I did. He remembered that because he reminded me TWICE.. But I can ask him 3 times to clean the beer cans off the back porch and clean out the coolers and he doesn’t do it.

All he has to do when he comes home is take out the trash and clean up his messes he makes. He can’t even do that.. when I try talking to him about it he turns it around on me. It happens every time and I’m always the one apologizing.

Please I need help, just come words of advice of just something to say to him. I’m really running out of things to say nicely. I’m struggling to speak for myself and communicate and it’s coming out in frustration and attitude.

How do I stop my 3 year old from harming my newborn?

Please someone else me I am at my whits end!! I’ve been struggling with my 3 year olds behaviour for a while now however it’s hit an all time low as he’s starting to hurt his baby sister. He’s constantly hitting her, throwing toys at her, jumping on the couch/bed right next to her and I just don’t know what to do anymore I’m really drained over it all. I absolutely love him to pieces but I feel like I can’t be his mum anymore 😭😭😭😭 I’m trying to go down the adhd route with him however because he’s 3 nobody will even entertain it

Nursery Experience ✨

Good afternoon Mamas , I would like to know your baby’s experiences at nursery’s , as I’m struggling with Anxiety, I have a 1 y6 months toodler and I would love put her for just 3 hours 2 days a week just to have contact with other kids so it’s good for her wellbeing , but I’m having difficulties , as I’m a SUPER PROTECTIVE mum , I know that it’s good for my mental health too ! I will really appreciate ✨🤎 thank you

Emotional thermostat of the family

I seem to be the emotional thermostat of the family - including my husband.
If I have an off day, EVERY BODY has an off day.
Like this morning I was very tired due to being six months pregnant and sleep being disturbed by all the usual things. My husband gets stressed out dealing with our son so I have to (no I didn’t have to but felt if I didn’t we would have a blow up on our hands) step in and be voice of reason between the two.
I literally can’t have a day where I feel crap and someone else holds the emotional fort?!?
The last time this happened I was newly pregnant and feeling nauseous and emotional, because of this the rest of the household was dysregulated and I broke down in tears at my midwife appoint.
Am I being unreasonable that I feel exasperated by this?
I feel like a total monster because of it, I don’t go around slamming doors or shouting at people - I’m sharper in tone and a bit grumpy yes. My husband gets super triggered by this though.
I grew up in a household where we had to tiptoe around our parents’ moods so I am so aware and so adamant I will not put my kids through that. But what if I am?? 😢
Feeling vulnerable so please be kind in your responses, I know it’s easy to project our own stuff on to other people’s business, especially when we don’t know the full story, so please assume I am a good person trying to do better. Thank you 🙏