Am I being insane

He can’t read your mind and if there is something he’s not doing that you’d like him to do… ask. I know it’s the “but he should think of it anyway” thing that’s bothering you but honestly that’s just not productive or realistic lol. A lot of men don’t just give spontaneous gifts and foot rubs. (It would be cool, I wish my husband did for sure, but I don’t think that’s standard?! Lol)

The highest form of love is consideration.

You’re not crazy for feeling the way you do.

As the saying goes, if he wanted to, he would. Simple fact is he doesn’t care. Majority of men are selfish and only think of themselves.

PS just because he has a job and earns money doesn’t mean you staying at home equals shit. Don’t gaslight yourself, your work is unpaid but you save the family money in childcare, cleaning, housekeeper etc. If you weren’t around he’d still have to work. He’s not doing anything extraordinary.

Say no to the nap sometimes and ask for a foot rub girl. They dont read minds but some of them are good at following orders or meeting clear expectations. Also, youre pregnant. Which doesn't mean youre crazy, just that you deserve a foot rub.

Tell that man what you want! He works but so does you! On the house and your child!!

There is no excuse for why he doesn't do these things. I was working full time at my job until around 38 weeks pregnant whilst my husband is a stay at home dad, and I still would remember these things. He would also give me back massages etc x

If you want something ask for it. If you want him to think of you for little treats like a snack, tell him.

But him saying he doesn't think about you is fucked up. You're his wife, he should always think of you. You guys built a life together, and continue to make it grow. You're his most important ally. People in relationships can easily become complacent, sounds like he may need a gentle reminder not to be.

I totally think he should be nore considerate and not need to be prompted or asked for things all the time. Maybe next time he wants a nap say "yes, but can I have a foot rub first?" Lol and then also let him know it would be nice if he could give you a massage at the end of the night or when he gets home. Even say that your back and feet have been killing you and it would help so much lol. If he has a problem with that then its def an issue but maybe try to throw him a bone lol

I think we teach people how to treat us. Why are you saying yes 100% of the time when u mean no? We have to learn to prioritize ourselves regardless of how it makes others feel sometimes. And if your husband isnt super thoughtful…. take the guess work out and just ask him. Ask… and let him respond. “Hey can u pick me up a candy bar on the way home?” “Ima go get a milkshake for an hour when you get home… ive had a rough day.” “Can I have a back massage when u wake up from your nap.”
You have to play an active role in having your cup filled. And as he serves u… he will learn u…. And potentially just start doing some things out of habit. Take the lemons and make some lemonade dear. First take care of you. Youre pregnant. You also care for a lil person.

That not you being a better husband than him.. it’s just being more considerate.

He is obviously not kind or thoughtful towards you. That's sad.

Start saying no.

Why are you doing 💯 of the cooking and cleaning? What hours does he work?

If you tell him you're tired and need a nap, is he cool with that? Do you get time to yourself? How is he with the kids?

I get that some men don't always think to be thoughtful with gifts or a footrub, but it sounds like you're doing way too much here and when that second baby comes it's going to be hard and he's going to have to knock those naps on the head when he gets home from work