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England

What do I do ?

So I have a friend who I would have considered a best friend - friends since we was 16 - we’re now 33/32 years old. We used to speak daily , catch up every few weeks and go out every so many months just us . I’d say the past 8months she hasn’t been bothered to keep in touch or make effort . I moved 1hour and half away and asked her to help me watch kids as i would of had to bring them with me in 2 vans doing a mutual swap with 2 other houses and she said no to go out with another friend on a train. She used to be pretty good at helping ( which I barely ever asked for ) any way since then she’s visited once which I was shocked about tbf. I had surgery where I had a mummy make over in another country.she messaged me the day of and said when Is it again and I had just woke up and then she still took until the next day to reply . She then asked my partner to translate something rather than ask how I am “. She messages more to ask for money than to actually just chat and catch up . I’ve been saying no because I feel used at this point . Ive been giving her benefit of the doubt because her brother died and I kept thinking maybe i wasn’t doing enough . But when it happened i had her child , I took all her favourite things around and tried to be there. It’s a year later now and she’s still fixated on it as she doesn’t know how it happened which again I understand but she still has been going out and not inviting me ( we was always the 2 to go out and then others might tag along ) she was having party’s at her house I didn’t even know. Which again I’m not bitter but I really don’t get it. I’m getting married next year and I bought a maid of honour box with gifts and I still haven’t give it her as I don’t think she’s that bothered anyways. My sister has been the same , wouldn’t help with my kids and watched me struggle when I moved. I genuinely feel like I’m living my best life , I’ve lost weight , moved far away from our rubbish area , met some one I’m crazy about and just got my dream job but also lost my Best friend and my sister. I’m at a point where I think we will just elope rather than waste money to have people there who genuinely couldn’t care less . Anyways am I being too sensitive ? I’m meant to be visiting the weekend even tho I’m only a few weeks post op to make effort but she probably couldn’t care less. What do I do ? Or think ?