Is he right?
My bd has just not been there or present. My daughter is 10 months old and he's only helped me finacially with about 3 things all that I asked for repeatedly because i wasnt working still so i didnt have the money, we were together during that time, besides that nothing. He sent me $25 yesterday after a month ago when i asked him if he could help me out get some diapers because i didn't realize i only had like 3 more left in the box and i had a week till i got paid, he's seen her once in the last 3 months, and maybe about 20/30 times since she's been born, never for more tgan about4 hours, besides when we wete tg hed stay the night ince a week, so like 20 hours those times, so we got into it but i just want some opinions
i didnt respond but I just want some opinions on his first text during the argument.
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He is absolutely NOT right. I saw my dad only on weekends (when he felt like it) when I was a kid. And it was a constant stress and pain in my life. When I stopped seeing him altogether, it didn’t hurt as much. To this day it hurts, but at least I don’t have my dad coming into my life here and there just when he wants to prove something or make himself feel good about himself. Him being in and out of your daughter’s life will be harder on her than not having him at all.
wtf is his problem? I rather have no dad than an inconsistent dad. It’s not good on your babies growth either. I’d just go to court for child custody tbh
Why don’t you meet in the middle and ask him to do one day a month to keep the contact low, easy and consistent. Eg the first Saturday of the month.
Ask him to bring supplies with him to leave with you on that day but don’t count on them. Then he doesn’t feel like he is giving you his money and he doesn’t feel cut out but be clear if he misses the date he can’t pick a new one that suits him.
It’s just - okay no problem see you next month not re-arrange. That’s all that would happen in an official court arrangement.
Not random days here and there to suit.
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