Cheating?

What is cheating for yall? My husband and me got into a fight and he started texting to a girl that went to my baby shower and everything and now idk if I should trust him or not? Would yall still be okay if he did this? Or am I just taking it too easy on him? He did this about 2 days before my bday he give me flowers shoes and money today on my bday. Am I making the girl a problem? Or is she the problem?

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I believe anything you wouldn’t do in front of your significant other is cheating.

What was he texting? How do you know? And how does he know her? Why would she entertain it? So many questions!

Weird asf for that girl to be texting him if she was at y’all’s baby shower. Also weird of him but even more so for her

I dont think texting girls is cheating??? My bf has many friends online and irl and they all chat and call and hangout. But like ive also never felt threatened by anyone.
Did u see something in the texts that bothered u?

So my husband and his work best friend at the time his sister in law and his gf were invited to my baby shower. she even cried at our baby clothes that was gifted. We got into a fight and I checked his phone they were talking and she even make the messages to one time only ,she did tho. I believe his not talking to her no more but I been getting this weird dreams about her

Is the fact she has the body I used to do before I had my baby😒

Have you asked him? Or will it create more of a problem because you snooped? I don't like the messages disappearing. Even if it wasn't flirty/ sexual the timing makes me think they were talking about you which is not OK.

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Is he right?

My bd has just not been there or present. My daughter is 10 months old and he's only helped me finacially with about 3 things all that I asked for repeatedly because i wasnt working still so i didnt have the money, we were together during that time, besides that nothing. He sent me $25 yesterday after a month ago when i asked him if he could help me out get some diapers because i didn't realize i only had like 3 more left in the box and i had a week till i got paid, he's seen her once in the last 3 months, and maybe about 20/30 times since she's been born, never for more tgan about4 hours, besides when we wete tg hed stay the night ince a week, so like 20 hours those times, so we got into it but i just want some opinions
i didnt respond but I just want some opinions on his first text during the argument.

Being left on read, I would rather be told your not interested in me anymore

My inbox is full of two or three intro conversations only to be left on read. You didnt even get the chance to get to know me, and being left on read is the best you could do? Am I the only one that craves uncomfortable adult conversations? Also if I did something wrong (which is hard to read into because the most you know about me is in one sentence) I would like to know why. Anyone else? I got atleast 15 messages left on read.

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