Sex

Tell him to go masterbate. Or if you wanted you could help him out with a handjob?
If penetration is painful for you and you’re not interested at this stage then you have every right to decline. He needs to understand this is a chapter of your lives where your body is changing daily, your hormones change your desire and libido, and that’s not your fault.
Time will come again when you want it and have time for it (post baby) and he needs to just appreciate that.
Sorry you’re going through that!

I'm with you. I have horrible scarring that might require another surgery to remove the scar tissue. It's hurts like hell. But I feel horrible because he has a high libido, but we've only tried once and I couldn't do it

Me same situation. Hand job is how we've been making it through. Like Lottie said this is just temporary.

For pain and all of that - you could see a pelvic floor PT.

As for the other stuff, intimacy can look different for everyone and can always change. You are allowed to not be interested and say no.

He shouldn’t feel neglected ur growing his baby he should be grateful. He isn’t in pain so the least he can do is be a little sex deprived

I would make an appt w gynecologist

Sounds like you need to see a doctor for the pain, it shouldn’t be painful and I’m sorry to hear that it is. If you don’t want to have sex then don’t. I’m sorry to say this but it’s not your job to make him feel better. Especially not for sex. You’ve had a baby, your hormones are all over the place, your body is recovering and I imagine you’re mentally recovering too. I have not had sex with my boyfriend in 5 months. He doesn’t care. He’s mentioned about having sex a few times and I’ve politely declined because I simply do not want to. He can pleasure himself if he needs to. Any woman that reads this too you don’t have to pleasure your partner if you don’t want to and any respectful man wouldn’t expect you to if you don’t want to. I find this strange. I’m sorry if it offends you but you’re worth more than what you can bring to your relationship sexually.

Thank you everyone! I have an appointment on Monday so I plan to bring this up then! He doesn’t pressure me or anything I personally just feel bad 😞 I still have 13 weeks before little miss makes her entrance and I just wanna do everything right ya know