Jobs you all have?

Just curious! I recently made the choice to be a single mom after multiple issues with my spouse.
On top of dealing with him.being such an inactive parent and then him coming out as trans and our finiacal issues I finally just decided I was done.
I really need a job to get back into workforce though now and stop relying on my spouse for it all.
I have been stay at home mom since 2021 since we have 4 kids. Early September 3 of them go to school so I would need atleast 200 a week to cover daycare cost for one year old.

in our community

Baby daddy issues.

I just need to rant.
Me n my baby daddy have been together for a year and a half and we have a 4month old child and he has his 5year old child that we have full time. I’m not trying to complain by any means because I’m thankful I’ve been able to be a SAHM the last 4 months n I get that thrown in my face constantly moral of the story I go back to work this week and i ultimately feel lost and not myself and my baby daddy doesn’t really help matters I do everything with the kids he takes his son out with him when he goes somewhere but I’m always stuck at home with the baby because he goes n does things that a toddler can do but a baby can’t. He doesn’t spend time w me or the baby and I feel like me n my child aren’t wanted around but anytime I have tried to leave him (bc he cheated in the past idk if he still is) he’s told me he will get full sole custody of my child n I don’t think that’s fair to me when I haven’t done anything wrong. Also anytime I ask him to watch the baby while I shower (15 mins max) it’s always “I’m tired” or “I’m dirty” he has not changed a SINGLE dirty diaper he’s fed the baby twice and that was in the hospital after I had the baby and he’s only held the baby and played with the baby 6 times max, I just feel like me n my child aren’t wanted around here. I just feel alone and I’m not trying to complain bc I don’t have things hard and someone always has it worse than me but me n my child get no attention whatsoever from him and anytime baby cries he just yells for me and doesn’t even try to calm the baby down.

Cheating?

What is cheating for yall? My husband and me got into a fight and he started texting to a girl that went to my baby shower and everything and now idk if I should trust him or not? Would yall still be okay if he did this? Or am I just taking it too easy on him? He did this about 2 days before my bday he give me flowers shoes and money today on my bday. Am I making the girl a problem? Or is she the problem?

Is he right?

My bd has just not been there or present. My daughter is 10 months old and he's only helped me finacially with about 3 things all that I asked for repeatedly because i wasnt working still so i didnt have the money, we were together during that time, besides that nothing. He sent me $25 yesterday after a month ago when i asked him if he could help me out get some diapers because i didn't realize i only had like 3 more left in the box and i had a week till i got paid, he's seen her once in the last 3 months, and maybe about 20/30 times since she's been born, never for more tgan about4 hours, besides when we wete tg hed stay the night ince a week, so like 20 hours those times, so we got into it but i just want some opinions
i didnt respond but I just want some opinions on his first text during the argument.

7 Months Pregnant and My Partner Wants to Leave

Second time mum (currently have a 5 year old and 7 months pregnant with a girl on the way). My partner (married 8 years, together 11) has sprung on me out of the blue that he is leaving as he feels like there has been no emotional connection between us for 18 months!! Never once spoke about any of this with me. Won’t explain any whys or even consider trying to work things out.

I’m at a loss of what to do, how to cope and make a safe place for me, little boy and the baby yet to be born.

Any advice?!

Does anyone else feel like older kids at the park are a tad bit rude?

For example my toddler is 2 and she’ll try interacting with 8 year olds for fun and they’re kind of mean since she speaks her toddler jibberish still & they don’t really understand her lol she mainly plays with the kids her age but if there’s no one else and she’s done playing with me she’ll go towards them. I understand the age gap is quite large though for sure.

Sex/ body changing BD comment
/ advice plz

I’m 10 weeks pregnant. The father of the child said something that made my blood boil today! Would love to know if u understand or if it’s mainly the hormones reacting. Be truthful/blunt! Ok so.. he randomly says “ I’m going to be miserable when the belly starts getting bigger bc I will become sex deprived “, “ sex with a pregnant woman isn’t as enjoyable “.

Ok so I understand he has the right for those thoughts and may even be accurate in ways.. but miserable is a strong word. I’m growing our child. I found that really hurtful. Sure think it I don’t blame u for that! But why say it to me? Ofc that will make me feel sad.

He tried to save it by saying he’s excited for my belly to grow bc I’ll still be beautiful with a big baby belly. And I’m not denying that he doesn’t feel that way. But idk my turn to hear from you lovely ladies. Am I over reacting? Or was he kinda stupid for that. Once again don’t blame him for those thoughts, but he didn’t need to share them with me. My body’s changing, my confidence is good, but it’s shifting in a different kinda way in regards to the way my body’s becoming. He already has one child from a past relationship. I’m sure having intimacy while pregnancy, is different. Its common sense it will be different and less intense might I say.. lol but that also made me think,

so ur speaking from experience huh. ( didn’t say this to him just in my head ). I admit that’s a little much which is why I kept that thought to myself. Like he shoulda kept this to himself. Sure if u wanna vocalize ur thoughts sure but maybe word it more gently? Say it’ll be different and hard not miserable!!!!!!