I need some opinions because I feel crazy

So me and my husband had a bad argument like yelling at each other, I’m crying we go to different rooms level of bad…..he goes to work the next day like everything is fine on his way home he calls me and says should I expect I have to get myself food or will you cook for both of us. I literally breakdown crying apologizing for everything, literally let out everything I was struggling with said how I’m trying so hard to do everything and that I’m struggling with the recent situations with my family and my toxic parent more than I let in. I literally spent 20 minutes talking he said ok I’m sorry and he said would it be ok if he picked up dinner for both of us so we could talk when he got home? I said ok and he basically got home, I got our 5 month old asleep in the stroller, I got our toddler set up eating I let him eat and basically ate what I could while managing our toddler….then he basically said he was too tired to talk said we would talk when he’s ready and it was a lot to process what I said…it’s been 3 days, he is making comments about wanting to “get some” and I said I don’t want sex or a physical relationship until you are ready to fix our marriage

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Ask for a timeline when he will be ready to have the convo or at least part of the convo.

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Maybe have sex and talk after when your both relaxed in bed? You shouldn't use intamacy as a weapon in a relationship. You both need to be calm and relaxed with each other its good you have both apologised maybe look at couples counselling if you struggle to talk to each other without getting angry?

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