Should I leave him?

My husband and I got married last November. I recently discovered that he has a porn addiction, and he admitted to it himself. While I understand many men are addicted to this, he took it a step further and has been sexting other women for the past two years.
I told him I feel like our marriage is a lie and we should never have went through with the wedding, had I known I wasn’t the only female he had eyes for.
We’re both in therapy now and I’m trying my best to trust him again, but it’s so hard. We have a four month old boy and he is the love of my life. I just want us to be a happy family, but this feels like something I can’t get past.

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Once trust is fully broken like this its very hard to fix it do you still love him

it is all personal when it comes to boundaries and what is or isn’t forgivable for people so it is hard to answer the yes or no ‘should I leave him’. however, I can say personally that I wouldn’t be able to look past this. watching porn is one thing (that I personally don’t have an issue with however I see how addiction is different and does need to be addressed) but messaging another woman is completely different. porn is someone’s job and they have no relationship or interaction with that person, sexting however there is interaction between the two that I see as crossing relationship boundaries for sure x

So sorry you are dealing with that. Although it's good that you're both agreed to therapy, I guess it would depend if he is doing it for his relationship and if he actually has stopped talking to other women, or if he's only doing it for you so that you don't pester him and he continues doing it behind your back. If he continues, I would personally divorce him. (I know, easier said than done) but you deserve to be happy, & you deserve respect and if what he's doing crushes your happiness, and disrespects you end it.

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. But my answer to should I leave him may be different from someone else’s. Everyone has different things they are happy to let slide or boundary’s they refuse to let be crossed. I personally don’t have a problem with porn (and sometimes watch it with my husband). But I would have a huge problem is he was addicted to it. But I could help him move past that addiction. The sextons other women though? No I couldn’t move past that. That’s a huge line for me. But again that’s personal. Only you know if it’s something you can ultimately forgive xx

One day at a time my love. I had to admit porn addiction , cheating something hard to get past . I have seen couples go to marriage counseling get past it ❤️❤️.

Why do you want to stay with someone who cheated on you for 2 years? That’s 2 years of intentional deception… so I can see why you struggle with trust. I know you have a small child but honestly leaving when they are little is so much easier cuz the child will grow up only knowing co-parenting. I saw this as someone who tried to stay with a cheater…

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got a call from daycare saying my boy had a decent fall & this is what you arrive to. what would you do?

Anyone else's husband always look busy but doesn't seem to be actually helping?

Like I appreciate he may be doing jobs that are on his todo list in his mind, but nothing that is actually helpful in the moment. It seems like he can't prioritise.

For example we have a 5 month old baby and a 3 year old. Our 3 year old goes to nursery in the mornings. My husband is off work atm, I'm a SAHM, so we are both around.
This morning, I wake up at 6:30 with baby, take her downstairs so she doesn't wake everyone, feed her, change her, dress her. At around 7:00 I make my 3yos breakfast so it's ready for him when he comes downstairs. He wakes around 7:15 so I go get him and bring him down. My husband also comes downstairs at this point.

I help my son with his breakfast, baby is in her swing for now.

I make up my sons bag for nursery, fill his water bottle, I clean and put baby's bottles in the Steriliser, I dress 3yo, I take him upstairs to use the toilet, brush his teeth and wash his face, I style his hair.
I then come back downstairs and immediately smell that baby has pooped, so I say to my husband can you not smell that? He says no. I change babies nappy again.
I tell my son to go get his shoes on, I get the pram unfolded for baby. My husband finally appears to help 3yo with his shoes and jacket, puts his own shoes on and then just stands around. I put baby in her pram etc, we all get outside to leave just on time and then my husband is like oh I need to pee 🤦🏻‍♀️ What was he doing all morning? The recycling was sitting on the kitchen ledge, he didn't take that out. He didn't put the breakfast dishes in the dishwasher, I don't actually know what he was doing? Like he just sort of faffs?? Makes cereal for himself and looks at stuff and just sort of *exists*.
Yes I can ask him for help, and sometimes he will help more without asking, but it makes me so annoyed to have to ask in the first place. I'm already busy managing our morning so we aren't late, we both have the same responsibilities, we both know what needs done, idk why I need to be the family manager.

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I need advice/ help my 20month old is pulling his private parts out and playing with it. I’m in limbo on what to do here.

What to feel your child with Hand foot and mouth

I'm on the verge of tears, I feel like I'm going insane.

She says she's hungry, I get her food she doesn't want it, I make something else, she doesn't want it. Is been a recurring cycle all day.

I have followed the advice to give her soft bland foods and cool food but I don't know what to do anymore... I've tried porridge, mash potato, eggs, ice pop, yoghurt, mashed banana, scrambled eggs.

Then she screams and cries for icecream.

I have given her medicine to help.

Please any advice would be appreciated if you have been through this. Please share good recommendation.

If/when your child’s grandparent watches them, do they actually do things with them?? Like do they try to feed them healthy, brush their teeth, comb their hair, go on walks or to the park and play games?

I got back last night from a little weekend getaway, it’s the longest I’ve ever been away from my kids. Friday-Monday. Anyways, my mil begged to keep the kids and I let her for 3 of the days, but when I got home my oldest told me they watched tv the whole time.. and ate a ton of junk food, like I kept asking well okay what did you do besides watch tv and they just kept saying nothing 🫠 on top of that my 5 year olds curly hair was matted. And I’m just so.. ugh I’m just so annoyed. I also had a plan for the kids so they didn’t have to go over there, I only let them because she asked, but if you’re a grandparent you shouldn’t insist on keeping the kids if you’re going to do jack sh*t the whole time. It sucks that I feel like I can’t trust any of my kids grandparents to actually care for them responsibly. My oldest said that she brushed my youngests teeth “because Mimi didn’t do it”🫠 never again

How do you find time for your shows or hobbies?

Ive only got one child (24 months) and my partner and I pretty much never get to watch or do anything we like. He is a very intense child...he also will not go to sleep before 9 so we either have to stay up really late to do any of our stuff (as my partner does) or just clean up, shower, and bed (like me...i need sleep way more then him)
We have toddler cartoons on like teletubbies sometimes at home but he loses his shit if we try and put on our TV or regular channels. He will go and get the remote and shove it at us and cry until we put his stuff on...
I feel he's ruling the roost a bit now....because I have pretty low tolerance for constant moaning and crying and struggle to constantly come up with new activities that he won't break or make a total mess with