Wanting to break up

Since having our baby myself and my partner are extremely unhappy, we have completely grown apart, he doesn’t support me/has no interest in me. I’ve had enough as I can’t live my lice like this. The only thing that stops me from leaving is because we have a mortgage together and I’m so worried about having no where to go with my LO. I can’t afford the mortgage myself especially being on MAT leave and worried about having nowhere to go.

Anyone else gone through anything similar and can give any advice please.

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Obviously everyone’s relationship is different and I don’t know how the specifics of what’s going on, that being said— the first year postpartum was hell for my husband and I. I didn’t think our relationship would survive. Things got better, we got stronger and we’re happy again, expecting our 2nd baby in 3 months. It took time and our oldest is now 4yo.

You are not alone, I felt the same and we had to have a lot of hard conversations to get where we are now. And it does make me scared for what this season of postpartum is going to look like. Your feelings are completely valid.

Here if you want to chat, vent, whatever you need.

I’m really sorry about this, I’m happy to speak with you.

Yes! I wanted to kill my partner with our first! I couldn’t stand him and would just feel angry whenever he was around me.

We managed to come out the other side (just!). Like you, I wanted to leave but we have a mortgage etc.

We have just had baby number 2 two weeks ago and this experience is completely different. He’s been amazing and we’re closer than ever.

Obviously I can’t really offer advice as above, everyone’s relationship is different. But, I do believe communication is KEY! You cannot work as a team if you don’t communicate. Lack of sleep etc does not help..
Do whatever is right for you & your baby 🫶🏻

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could this potentially be her teeth ?

i might be crazy but honestly i'm not sure, her gums feel hard and she has been drooling a ton lately. she also has been getting super fussy and hasn't been eating as long / will refuse the breast at first. she has been eating her hand (but not in a hunger way) and will eat my arm, i am just very unsure.

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Ok, based on another post I saw and now I'm curious.
If your teenager holds a job, at what age would you feel comfortable still calling their boss to complain about a scheduling policy that you disagree with? Or any policy that you disagree with?

Mama stressed

Little rant but mainly looking for advice of any kind 😩
So my eldest boy is 6 and he is really struggling with his behaviour over the summer holidays he’s been so naughty and has constantly pushed buttons completely on purpose he claims he can’t control it and that his brain is bad however I can’t excuse or understand how he can do things like pour Pepsi all over his dads £1400 gaming set up because he ‘doesn’t like it’ or smash his tv out of anger coz a game wouldn’t let him play it how he wanted he’s constantly stealing things like chewing gum or snacks and then refusing to eat actual food and he’s shouting at us and telling us he hates us and we’re worst parents and he’s even gone as to far as attempting to hit his baby brother who’s 17 months old. Overall I’m at breaking point because this isn’t who he is yet it’s all he seems to be doing lately I’m heartbroken and feel defeated and I just want my boy back and to help get to bottom of this 😩😭

I just need to vent

So my daughter had a week and a half off from nursery recently (the half was due to her having a temperature and not being able to go and the week was because I had time off so we could spend quality time together).

She’s been back to nursery this week, has only been in for 2 days, and she’s already coming down with something and her temperature is starting to increase 🤬

She’s 2 years old and has been at nursery for 15 months already.

She was only ill less than 2 weeks ago.

And now she’s coming down with someone else!

I thought they were supposed to get better with not getting so ill the longer they spend at nursery? But she just keeps getting ill and it’s never ending!

We’ve both taken so much time off work. I feel like I can’t look for a new job because of constantly needing to be off with her when she’s sick and my husband can’t do it due to work commitments and lack of flexibility, I just thought this was going to get easier.

Why does she have to keep f’ing catching stuff!!

And then why are people continuously taking their sick kids into nursery?? It’s 2 f’ing days for peep sake!! How is she possibly ill already?! Such an f’ing joke!!!!!

Argh!

Have you introduced screentime?

If so how long a day?
If not how are you getting things done?😭

I was adamant I wasn't going to give screen time but man it has been the best thing someday to get chores done or change his nappy.

But I'm also reluctant for that to be my go to all the time and trying to minimise as much as possible

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could this potentially be her teeth ?

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I just need to vent

Have you introduced screentime?

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