I need some cannamom friends

I am literally suffering through postpartum depression and I need some 420 friendly women to talk to or preferably hang out...I feel like I'm mentally going insane with no one to talk to.

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Postpartum/return to work

Not sure if anyone has any advice or is also currently going through this. Struggling first time mom over here. My baby is almost 4 months old, I returned to work when he was 9 weeks old. I work at a daycare so I'm able to bring him with me, he's in the classroom directly next to me with a half wall separating us. I'm currently struggling with adjusting being away from him all day while also dealing with all the postpartum things, feeling like a bad mom for leaving him and not spending all day with him, constantly wanting to cry. Feeling like I'm doing something wrong at my job just for peaking over the wall to check on him. Wanting to work from home so I can be with him but fighting myself wondering if I should do that, feeling guilty if I do because I'd be leaving my current job.

Looking for some opinions/advice because I genuinely don’t know what the best thing to do is.

Me and my baby’s dad were together for 5 years. We broke up in April while I was pregnant, and within the same month he had a new girlfriend.

Since we broke up, he’s barely contacted me or checked in to see how me or the baby are doing. We’ve gone months without speaking and I’ve basically been going through the pregnancy, appointments and preparing for our little boy on my own.

He’s said he wants to be involved once the baby is born, but he’s also told me he wants a paternity test when he’s here. I know people can ask for that reassurance, but after being together for five years and knowing there’s no question in my mind about who the father is, it has obviously hurt me.

I’m also finding it difficult that he moved on and got into another relationship so quickly after our five-year relationship ended, especially while I’m pregnant. I understand that we’re no longer together and he’s entitled to move on, but it’s a lot to process alongside everything else.

I don’t want my feelings towards him or his new relationship to influence decisions about our son. At the same time, I feel like being a parent starts before the baby is born, and I’m struggling with the idea of him having very little involvement throughout the pregnancy but then expecting everything to change once the baby arrives.

I’m also unsure how to approach his new girlfriend being around my baby.i have never met her before and have no idea who she is.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? What would you do? Would you let him take the lead and see whether he actually makes consistent effort once the baby is born? How would you deal with the paternity test and his new girlfriend?

I’m not looking to keep my son away from his dad. I just want to protect my peace, set sensible boundaries and make decisions that are genuinely best for my baby rather than making them because I’m hurt.

Am I the dickhead ?

I just received a gift from partner.. it being a Samsung phone one of the latest ones. And he was excited leading up to giving it to me, my birthday was in January but he didn’t have any money then so he got me something now.

Anyways I’m iPhone gang, I have my Mac, my iPad, AirPods all linked ect. So I’m abit surprised that he got me a Samsung and an expensive one at that. I kind of stated that I’m used to the iPhone and my things are all set.

Voicing my opinion has made him quite sad and feel like I don’t appreciate his gifts and that he’ll never gift me again.

I feel awful, he’s not talking to me now. I’m not sure what to do ?!

I regret becoming a SAHM and stepmom

I regret giving up my autonomy.
I regret becoming dependent.
I regret getting involved with his drama and his shitty parenting with my stepkid.
I regret having to wait on him to do anything.

Recently he sold his business and hasn’t been working and has been home miserable. Now we’re having money issues and I’m looking for work again. I sit on the laptop hopeful to find sometime part time or full time remote and he sits there telling me to look for a job for him.

I regret marrying this man child. Who lied about who he was, what he had and what he was capable of. He totaled my car and purchased a new one in his name. Now I’m stuck in the house all day and he’s telling me to take public transportation, which I wasn’t doing and hasn’t done for 10+ years prior to meeting him.

Then he says take the car and make plans whenever but when I decide something his plans always take precedence.

Today I wanted to take my baby to the zoo since it’s free after 2pm on Wednesday. I made us breakfast, while he was at the gym with the intention to get ready after breakfast to go enjoy my afternoon. He tells me oh I have to travel 1.5 hours to pickup my brother, come with me. I said no obv because why should I subject my baby to sit in the car for 1.5 hours upstate, another 1.5 hours to drop him off to the city and another hour to come back home?!

I am miserable , I hate myself for these choices I’ve made, I hate my life.

Do you think having sex every 2 days (every other night) in my fertile window will be enough to get pregnant?

We've not managed every day due to kids and me falling asleep on the sofa!

Advice please

Hey guys, i guess im looking for advice or something idk honestly. Ive been with my husband for 18 years married almost 10. Over the past few years he started having a really bad gambling problem. I left him in June for one night , he was constantly texting me the entire time one right after the other, threatening to end his life so i went back the next day. He said he would stop gambling, well that lasted a week, so i left again exactly a month later in July. I stayed gone for 9 days, blocked him on everything. Well we ended up talking again because he started causing a lot of problems for me when it came to our kids, tried to put me in jail, called and tried to have our baby taken from me by lying, i have the statement he made. Well stupid me, i went back yet again. He kept saying he wouldnt make it without me, how he didnt eat for 9 days, that basically he was dying. Mind you ive been with him since i was 19 and he was 33. Our entire relationship has been “controlled” by him. Anyways, we packed up my car and went to go check on his dad and well we have been here for a month now in a different state, and when i explained i wanted to go back, he got really mad, we fought everyday for 2 weeks straight. He would get upset because i didnt want to “lay down” or because every time he would “grope” me i would pull away. He has mentioned he wanted me to dye my hair because he thinks it will look better. Has started getting me clothes that i would usually never wear. Saying that hes from this area and he has a reputation to uphold and he wants his wife to look good. I still have a daughter where im from, shes 18 and lives with my mom because shes still in school. He doesnt work and wants us to work together even though ive stated i want my own job. Im supposed to be flying back and forth to see my other daughter but how if he isnt working and i dont have money for a ticket? Hence the reason i want to work. Idk i just needed to get all of this off my mind. Im so torn because ive been made to feel like im worthless and a horrible mother and it breaks my heart.