1st birthday situation

Ugh I just need to rant. Will probably delete later. My husband and I agreed that we would only have a smash cake for my daughter and cupcakes for the guest. No one on either side really eats cake so it would just be a waste.
We went to go visit my MIL yesterday and she said she would have her friend make a cake. We said no it’s okay and she kept insisting that her friend would make the cake. My husband gave in and said okay.

I was obviously upset because we had agreed that we weren’t doing cake. It’s not about spending the money on the cake it’s about the principle of it all. We said no and she kept pushing it onto us. My husband said he would call her and tell her no to the cake but I said just forget it. You already said yes. Just annoyed with the whole situation.

in our community

Who are the psychos out here giving their 7 year olds cell phones??

My daughter has told me a few times now since starting 2nd grade that some of her classmates have cell phones and now she wants one 🫩🫩🫩 obviously she’s not going to get one lmao, but the fact that this is already a thing and convo I’m having now is mind blowing to me, I thought I’d have a few more years

Tax free child care uk

Hi ladies
I’m just wondering if anyone could talk me through how the payments work for the tax free child care for nursery?
We are eligible for 30 free hours which we claim and the nursery have sorted for us.
I have only just realised today when updating my account that I am also eligible for tax free child care which I believe is where the government pays 20% of the nursery bill?

My nursery bill per month is £137, I have selected and set up my nursery on the account, I’m just not really understanding how the money gets paid in and how the gov know how much to pay for their bit?

I have taken a screen shot of the screen that came up for when I was trying to have a nosy round and figure out how to pay, I haven’t actually got my next bill just yet, and last month I just paid the full £137 myself straight from my bank account as I didn’t realise I was eligible for the tax free one. No biggy really about the first bill as he has only just started nursery so that was his first bill, I would just like to know how to pay it with the government bit in preparation for the next bill.
Thank you

Doing it alone

So I’m currently at the hospital because I’m in labor and about to deliver my baby within the next hour and a half probably and none one’s here.
Well my mom’s on the way to me now but it’ll take a minute for her to come. As for my baby’s dad, nowhere in sight. I told him I was in the hospital and he said he wanted to be there when his son is born but where is he? Who knows.
Am I upset? Definitely. Am I surprised? No not really. I’m only irritated because I know he’s going to blame me for something like he always does and it’s going to be horrible.
But that’s not important, what’s important is that I get to see my baby boy soon with or without him. Sad to say but I can’t control how he reacts so I’m just gonna focus on me and baby.

Partner seems so uninterested!!

Baby could come in 3 weeks and my partner hasn’t help with anything at all! I’ve even given him the space and said we need to discuss these things, let me know when you’re free to chat and he still hasn’t bothered! He said he was going to talk to me yesterday but apparently I was too emotional so he didn’t bother! Which I think is a lie, he was just trying to find an excuse. He has been purposely coming home late from work all week and my little one would ask why daddy is late for dinner. I don’t know what to do anymore, I’m so mentally exhausted and feel so alone in this process! I’m hoping for a home birth, I don’t know how this would work if I feel so unsupported at the moment!

Can I just not

Everything is always the baby first think of the baby. But what about me. Like honestly I’m so tired. it’s my second time getting fucked over and left with a baby. This time though I have to share my son on weekends because his father want to be “in the picture”. I honestly just want to cut him off and move somewhere so I don’t have to. :/ feeling angry and sad

Feeling lonely

It’s a long one I apologise but if you do read it and can’t give some support I would be really appreciative!
I’m feeling so sad and lonely and just feel like I can’t do anything right . I live with my fiancé and I’m 29 weeks tomorrow. We moved in to our house 2 months ago and I just feel like I’m doing it all myself. I’m always the one to do the cleaning and washing and doing the dishes, cleaning up and cooking and he goes to work comes home and goes on his ps. I don’t have a problem with doing these things as I am the one that currently is at home all the time due to having to come out of work due to it closing but even when I was working it was still only me doing everything.
I’m so grateful that I am able to be at home during this difficult time thanks to him , I don’t want to sound ungrateful.
I think tonight I’m just extremely emotional I tried making tea tonight ( I’m not great at cooking) I made chicken mash roast potatoes and veg for when he got home from work exept the chicken was over done so it was dry and I tried using the ninja to make my mash as we don’t currently have a masher and that turned to slop and I told him I made tea but if you don’t want it is fine we can just get a takeaway as it’s not great . He looked at it and said 10/10 for effort and then started poking and picking at it and then said I put him of it bc I was being so negative. Ouch I was just tryna cover my back from being embarrassed.
Anyways he didn’t eat it I offered to make him something else he asked for cheese on toast and then I said actually can you make it he said no u can do it perfectly and i then asked him to come downstairs for a hug as before he went upstairs he noticed I wasn’t 100% and his reply was have you made my toast .
It feel really Petty when I’m saying it but I just feel so hurt and I feel like I just need to let it out .
He’s currently sleeping whilst I’m feeling sorry for myself on the sofa .
Am I over reacting? Am I just being over emotional.