Would you be annoyed

So 99% of the time I get the kids ready for the day, I do their laundry and sort their clothes and I also buy majority of their clothes
Sometimes my partner has a problem with what they’re wearing and will start critiquing or complaining once we’re already dressed for the day

Today was one of those days they were wearing a T-shirt and leggings and it was about 20 degrees Celsius the high of the day is 24 I feel like this is appropriate clothing for the temperature

We were about to go out in 15 mins and he started saying they need to change into warmer clothes, I’m tired of going back and forth with him on this so I said “if you want them to change can you change them” as I still needed to eat my breakfast for some reason he still had a problem with how I said it (I didn’t have an attitude or anything) but he couldn’t even say how he’d rephrase it

Anyways here’s what he changed them into (bear in mind they’re quite thick clothes if you can’t tell) I was wearing a T-shirt and shorts and still felt warm outside and he was wearing a T-shirt and joggers

Obviously for me this is 4 sets of clothes I need to wash rather than just 2 and even if I asked him to do the laundry I’d be waiting forever

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The clothes in both pics look like the same level of thickness 😬.. Kinda pointless him changing your child when there's no much difference in thickness 😬

Was the original outfit dirty? Cause I wouldn't bother washing it if it was only on for a small amount of time! If I change my son for any reason and he's only been inside and the clothes aren't dirty I don't put them in the laundry.
I do think I agree if he wants them changed then he can do it.
Also he could just put a jacket over the other clothes if need be then you can remove it if it's too hot.

I don’t understand why he couldn’t just bring a jumper/jacket for them “just in case” or put it over the leggings why did he have to take the leggings off and change them…they’re pants. Jumper and pants is still fine. We always have a jacket for my boy in the car so the times we rush out he’s in a T-shirt and Hubbys like “he’s gonna get cold” (as in the kid) I’m like that’s okay he’s got a jacket in the car. And we go. The fact that he got them both fully changed when it wasn’t needed …🤦🏻‍♀️

So I am confused;

1. Why are you washing clean clothes?

2. What is the difference between the outfits in terms of warmth? Because they look the same to me. Trackies and a jumper.

ETA - I misread what you wrote. I'd ve a little annoyed but find a compromise. Trackies and a t-shirt with a jumper and if they get warm jumper comes off or if it is off, goes on if they are cool. Still don't understand why you would wash clean clothes though.

They’ll be way too warm like this omg this drives me nuts my husband is so bad at judging what to put our son in based on temperature and level of activity and whatever else it’s just like no thought goes into it :/ I’d bring the t shirt or something for the kids cause I’d hate for the kiddos to be uncomfortable

I’m in leggings at the moment and feeling warm! Was in shorts earlier. Couldn’t be of just put a hoody on them? Or is it more he didn’t want them going out in leggings?

He is definitely being weird. My husband is bad at getting clothes for our kid, last time we had an emergency and he had to keep our son with him he didnt even put shoes on him he is a good dad but still absolutely babies our first. There is nothing wrong with what your kids had on. If he was worried about them getting cold grab a blanket

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