Relationship/ partner breakdown

It is really hard in relationships after a baby arrives; I think we have all been there. He needs to accept this, and both of you need to find a balance.

Making a pregnant woman move homes is disgusting! I have had to do it myself and has been unbelievably stressful. I think you are being way too considerate of his feelings. You are the one doing night feeds, you are looking after another child and a newborn. Your body has been through the most extreme things it can ever go through! I am sorry if I sound harsh towards him but no postpartum mum should have to worry about the dads mental health when she is doing EVERYTHING

Personally I could never be with a man who didn't try with my first child.
It sounds like you need some time apart and he needs to address his mental health struggles and step up and become a father then a partner later

Probably controversial but he’s an adult and you haven’t “neglected” him whilst taking care of your newborn baby, your older child and yourself recovering post partum all whilst doing everything else too!
Making you move out when you’re pregnant with his child too is also disgusting.
It may feel awful atm but in the long run it sounds like you’ll be better off without him!

I was once your daughter. My mum introduced me to my stepdad around that age and we always clashed. Then they had a baby (my sister) but can I just say, I still resent my mum at 28 for putting me through that. No doubt she’s a good mum but she ruined my childhood by being with a man who cannot accept another man’s child as their own.

They’re divorced now but I just think, why did you go with a man who felt like that towards me? From age 11 onwards as I hit teenage years with hormones and everything else it got 100x worse for me. My mental health plummeted. Like your situation, it was his house so he called all of the shots.

As a mother myself I have had a child from broken relationship and I’ve also had another baby with my new partner. My new partner treats my firstborn like his own, he loves him just like he would his own child. That was the main thing I looked for in a partner because that’s all that matters to me.

So no, I don’t think it’ll work long term anyway.

Sorry but I don’t agree with his actions what so ever.
First red flag - clashing with your first born.
Your children should always come first before any relationship, if he can not make the effort to be nice, kind and a good role model to your first child why did you stay?
Secondly making you move out whilst pregnant because he’s struggling?
Relationships are essentially put on hold when you bring a baby into the world because your top priority (especially in the very beginning) is nurturing that little life you’ve created.
Relationships get put on the back burner for a bit and unfortunately either some relationships make it out of the first stage of parenting or they give up and call it quits.
This man sounds like a child.

Relationships take a hit when baby gets here it's just a fact. So please don't worry about that, you will get things back on track in time. Baby has to come first.
I'm really surprised he asked you to leave the home when you were pregnant? And have moved again when you have a 3 month old? Be honest with yourself is he actually being a dad right now because it sounds like to me he isn't doing any parenting? 🤷‍♀️
Men can go through a form of postnatal depression too and if this is what it is then he needs to be proactive and get help rather than essentially kicking you all out of the house.
He's also missing out on essential bonding time with your new baby. He won't get this time back...

My mom once dated a guy I didn't like. Like some mothers, she dated him anyway. I was a lot younger than 9. He told her, never settle with a man that tour kid didn't like. During that brief moment they had my sister. My ride or die so to speak. I'm thankful that I have her, but parents need to do better when picking partners and conversations need to be had before bringing someone into the mix. Was he introduced as your friend first and see if she warmed up to him?

With all due respect, why are you defending this man? Even in the comments? Stand up sis 😭