Working for a play cafe

I’ve been offered work on some weekends to help with parties at a local play cafe (4-5 hours max)

My partner doesn’t think I should be doing it as I’m “missing out on family time” My partner works full time as a teacher and I’m a SAHM, he has been working extra during the holidays at clubs ect.

Surly I shouldn’t feel bad getting myself back out there again and then having “mum guilt” on missing family when I’ve been a SAHM for over two and a half years ….

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I worked part time after being a stay at home mom for 7 years last year (not working anymore) and it was difficult because I did miss out on a lot of family events from working. 😅 so I understand where he’s coming from but also if this is something you really want to do, why not? It’ll give you some sense of self back. Go for it!

In your post you said 'some' weekends. For sure, you will definitely miss out on some things. But that's unavoidable! You deserve to go to work if you want to and see what affect it has on you and your life! If you don't try, you'll never know. I'm sure you can always quit if it doesn't work out!

You should not feel guilty finding your pink postpartum is really hard if your doing I wouldn’t make any changes

I felt like this too. Then I realized it'd be good for my husband to spend some time alone with the kids, (I'm usually the one at home with them) because it'd help him gain confidence in managing them. And then if I ever need to go out for the day without them, I will feel less worried about his ability to cope!x

I work full time and on the occasional weekends I work at a football stadium. It is usually 2 weekends out of a month. We still have family time on the Sunday and one the weekends I am not working.

My partner also does the occasional overtime at work on a weekend

Take the job!

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CHEATING OR NOT?

so over the course of several weeks my man has been acting really sketchy. like a little less than a week ago he went out with friends, and didn’t come home until 5 o’clock in the morning. he said he was at a car show ???

then i talked to my friend who ran into him at a bar one night. she told me that she saw him greeting a girl who walked in alone, and he took her purse and was holding it for her and they sat at the bar and were just talking and talking. once my man noticed my friend was there, he acknowledged her but then they scurried off and left.

also, he’s been going to this sushi restaurant and a dive bar to do his work “undistracted”

then i saw on his watch that he’s texting with some girl named destiny??

some of it is just sketchy. but would you consider his actions at the bar cheating? or that he’s texting some girl i’ve never heard of?

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Am I ridiculous?

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The other day my baby was having an awful wind episode (full on screaming) and MIL was trying to shove a bottle in her mouth and wouldn’t give her back to me. When me and my husband then ask for her to sort her out she always goes ‘no she’s fine with me!’ And once said ‘nanny knows best’. She also said to my LG a few weeks ago ‘are they not feeding you enough? Do they pinch you awake? Do they pinch you when I’m not here? Tell me all about it’ and I can’t stand it.
My husband is amazing and puts her in her place but she just doesn’t listen and she is now trying to make decisions on my LGs care e.g not using a swivel base in the car and just a seatbelt extender when she takes her out (she hasn’t yet but I don’t want to let her now especially as I’ve said I’ll put my swivel base in her car)
Am I being ridiculous getting upset about her doing stuff like this? Happy to hear some honest opinions.

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Is anyone else juggling it? Any tips