Evening alone
My other half works nights and our little one is now 6 weeks old. I am finding im so anxious when he leaves for work, and the last 2 nights I have worried the baby isnt breathing as he should. I think thianis actually in my head.
Does anyone else feel the same.
How do you deal with it?
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I struggled really badly with this with my first baby. Unfortunately you can develop postpartum anxiety. It gets easier with time and I can imagine having a partner working nights increases it massively. Literally the only thing that helped me was getting an owlet sock but we could only do that’s because my grandparents gave us a fair bit of money when we had her to get anything we needed for her
I had this badly with my first baby. The only thing that helped other than time passing (every day / evening that the thing you’re worried about doesn’t happen… helps! I tried to remind myself of this and see each time he was ok as evidence that I was overthinking etc) was to get some talking therapy - I was referred to the mental health team by the health visitor upon my request, it really helped and it was free. There was no judgement and I could take my baby with me.
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Evening alone
My other half works nights and our little one is now 6 weeks old. I am finding im so anxious when he leaves for work, and the last 2 nights I have worried the baby isnt breathing as he should. I think thianis actually in my head.
Does anyone else feel the same.
How do you deal with it?
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