9/10 month olds in nursery reassurance 😣

Hi! My baby boy is almost 10 months and he has just started full days nursery. I work 3 days a week as a teacher and I hate every single second of it. I feel miserable leaving him and the guilt when they tell me he’s been upset at times is awful. Everyone I know with kids seems to either be stay at home mums or work incredibly flexible jobs that allow pick up to be really early. My daughter also starts school this year and she’s in breakfast and after school club.

I guess I’m just looking for reassurance that this is common and that many of us do actually have no choice but to use childcare. How do you deal with the emotions? I would give anything for another year off with my baby 😭

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My baby was in part time from 3 months, she loves it, they get up to all sorts and has great report with the staff.

My business won’t run itself !

I’m in exactly the same situation — I have a son who’s four and my little one is 10 months old. I work in healthcare, and I find it really challenging trying to balance everything, especially with the demands of the job and how difficult it can be to actually finish on time.
I’d really love to speak to someone who’s in a similar boat and understands what it’s like trying to juggle work and two young children 🩷

I go back to work next month but my almost 10 month old is starting nursery next week and so far her settling sessions haven't gone too well. She was very emotional at her last session and I had to pick her up early so I'm dreading it.

She'll be in Mondays and Fridays and with Grandparents 2 other days out of the week so I'll have her wednesday and weekends. Breaks my heart that we have to send them off to other people. It completely goes against our natural instincts as mothers!
Just to make ends meet, we have to leave them. I hate every bit of it but I try to tell myself it'll be good for her to find comfort in others and it will be good for me to get back to having some days to myself even if they are at work.
I've been through it with my first born and I know that you soon find a new normal. Its just very daunting at first

I think we're all there... I'm trying to be positive a bit, we won't be the first mums to leave their babies and they won't be the first babies left at nursery and this is part of the process. We will be fine and they will thrive and learn new things, make new friends 💓

My baby has just started three days to and is 10 months next week . It's so tough at the start 😭 my eldest is going into year 1 and breakfast club etc and today he just ran away from the school gates which was so upsetting whilst I'm trying to hold the baby . I called an hour after and they said he was happy playing . It's all change and it takes time to get in the new 'Normal' routine but there are plenty of us mamas doing the same xx

I'm the same, I'm a teacher and my eldest starts school next week. These few weeks are very emotional with all these changes. My little girl is in nursery 2.5 days and grandparents 1.5 day and I have a wednesday.

I'm thankful I'm a teacher that I get the holidays with them and to make many memories with them. Many people only get 28 weeks. I use that when I'm sad. Also when terrible twos or threes hit you will be thankful for being at work 🤣

It's hard, but nursery is great for them once they're used it and you will cherish every moment with them. It's very normal x

Thank you for all your responses you have made me feel a lot less alone and that there are positives to our situation 💕

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