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I’m after some advice on my unborn baby daddy I told him yesterday I don’t feel happy in the relationship anymore and that I don’t trust him and I know I will be doing all the work as in all the night feeds as he is clueless i don’t really want the baby to have his last name either do you think I’m being too harsh
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If you got the gut feel he isn’t a ‘dad’ I’m gonna say you’re 100% right lol
A lot will say gotta let them learn but my argument was always 1) mine didn’t care enough to learn prior to baby being born 2) then at what cost? Your mental health and the baby’s safety?
Obviously we all need advice and support but something that’s helped me a lot is letting my gut says so be a whole reason
Know someone had a similar situation long time ago she let dad choose first name (Hazzard) and she kept last name, she picked middle name as Charles and lets the kiddo pick what to be called by who
Just an option, hope some of this helps!
What did he say back? I guess it depends if he's done anything major to make you feel unhappy. I guess you will never really know how much he helps until the baby is born. Being a daddy can change things sometimes so he may surprise you but I don't know
I have similar situation, my partner did one night shift with the baby, otherwise it is always me ( LO is 5 months old and not yet sleeps through the bight) + during the day it is me who takes care of the baby too. So I am just exhausted. Not sure what to do with it.... I think such situation puts a lot of strain on the relationship, possibly that not giving a baby father's surname will create even more pressure in relationship ... I can tell... from my experience...at the moment there is no win win situation.
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Does this seem fair.
I'm on maternity leave with a 4 month old and have a 2 yr old toddler.
On Mondays I have no childcare so I'm looking after both all day.
Rest of the week my toddler is in nursery for half a day.
My partner goes to a social group every Tuesday evening for 4 hrs and on Saturdays for 3 hrs.
I've said I want to have free time 9-3 on a weekend to do whatever i want to do - shopping, baking, seeing friends, etc etc.
I said I can't have free time any other time during the week as there's no point - my partner is out from 7am to 6pm Mon-Fri.
Does this seem fair?
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Just advise on relationship and pregnancy apologies for long post.
Hello im going to apologise ahead of time for the post as its gunna probably be a long one.
I had a baby in jan 2025 then another baby who was preterm delivered by emegency c section at 31 weeks and 6 days which was in may 2026 i have just took 4 clear blue tests last week which are saying in 2-3 weeks which means conception was 4-5 weeks ago i told my partner that we should of been more careful as ive always been against terminations myself unless its medically necessary (no judgement to anybody as there are a lot of very valid reasons for terminations).
But all in all he doesnt really do much to help me i do all finances i do all the kids care i do all the housework he doesnt even work either so he just lays about either in my house or running around for other people which can make things difficult in the house sometimes.
Id just like a bit of advise really on what the best thing to do it due to so many complications can happen eith this pregnancy due to the issues i had with my last labour and im a little concerned as i had really bad hyperemesis in both my last pregnancies and he never gave me enough time to recover i had to discharge myself from the hospital most times due to the kids were inconveniencing him and what he had to do.
I feel bad writing this post but am i better terminating? Or am i better off just dropping the man who can not take any responsibility towards his children as things seem so much easier when hes not laying about asking me well what have you done today when i never stop.
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Advice
I’m after some advice on my unborn baby daddy I told him yesterday I don’t feel happy in the relationship anymore and that I don’t trust him and I know I will be doing all the work as in all the night feeds as he is clueless i don’t really want the baby to have his last name either do you think I’m being too harsh
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