What age would’ve/would you have wanted to send your child to nursery/preschool for the first time?
In an ideal world, what age would you have sent your child to nursery/pre school for the first time?
I have a 16 month old who has never been to nursery. I am lucky to only work one day as a teacher and have that days childcare covered by family. I have not had to worry about finding the right setting, changes in routine, settling in etc.
What age does nursey/preschool become beneficial enough to send them?
We see friends with babies of similar ages and attend play/toddler groups each week.
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I think it all depends. I can afford 9 months off when my LO arrives and that qualifies me for 30 hours free (government funded) at nursery. Otherwise it would be 6 months due to maternity allowance
My daughter didn’t go to nursery until she was 3 years old, then only one day a week. We increased that to 2 days per week closer to her starting school. That would be my ideal world scenario too, if we have another child I would aim to do the exact same thing.
My first child started when he was 3 and it was honestly the best time! He could communicate, he was old enough to understand mommy would come back and we built such a beautiful relationship on those 3 years... Unfortunately with my second child we will be sending him when he turns one as I need to go back to work but he will only go one full day and 2 days in the morning
My daughter started just before 3 and only for one day a week. She hated it, so goes to a childminder now, who has around 15 kids and 2 assistants to help. My daughter much prefers that. I don’t think my child would have benefited going any earlier than she did. So I’d make the same choice again.
My eldest son started at 1 & absolutely loves, my second will be starting at 6 months !! 😊
I was a sahm with my second and I sent her to preschool age 2. This was to help with her speech, socialise and also because of her asd brother who was then out of school so I couldn’t take her anywhere.
Our little boy will be going to nursery when he hits 1 year 🥹 I’d rather be with him myself but financially I have to go back to work, am telling myself that socialising with other kids and the different activities that the nursery can offer (V good nursery) will be amazing for his development! 🌱
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What would you do in this instance?
My son just started year 1. When I picked him up on friday ( second day of school) he was very upset. Said this boy said he doesn’t like my son because he has a bad haircut.
My son was realllyyy upset. The day before I had spoken to the boys mum during pick up and she seemed nice.
The thing is, they just mixed the classes for year one and the other boy wasn’t in his class before. But when we went to the summer fair just before the school closed ( the school hosted it) the boy was there and my son said how he was being mean to my son and his friend in the playground.
What should I do ? Should I dismiss it for now, or speak to the teacher?
What should I say to the teacher?
I don’t want to seem like I am complaining the first week of school, but I don’t want my son to come home upset either.
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The End
Hi Moms,
Remember my post about joining the Navy and potentially leaving my son with my husband while I’m away? The arrangement was contingent on me sending him all of the housing allowance, plus additional financial support.
There is a history of DV, and so many of you warned me that putting myself in that position could be extremely risky. You told me not to do it.
Well… update.
While I was helping my husband rebuild his resume and update his professional profiles, including LinkedIn, I discovered that he had been talking to another woman.
He denied it until I showed him what I found. Then he became quiet. No remorse. Nothing.
I didn’t want him anywhere near me after that, so I made him sleep on the floor.
Over Labor Day weekend, he spent the night somewhere else.
Then, to my absolute shock, I found out that he had sent naked pictures of me to friends, even his own brother.
He also took our only car without telling me where he was going and took all of the bank cards with him.
At this point, part of me just wants to go straight to the police and then to a DV shelter.
I’m nauseous. I keep feeling like I want to shower over and over again.
And in the middle of all of this, my son keeps asking me, “Where is Daddy?”
That is the part that breaks me.
I keep thinking about packing a bag, taking my child and leaving the moment I have the opportunity.
Then another part of me thinks about the trauma and instability this could create for my little boy. Maybe I should find a job, quietly become financially independent, prepare everything properly and then get us out.
I don’t know anymore.
My husband is 18 years older than me. I’m an expat here with no family support system, yet somehow I am expected to provide for him AND our son while trying to rebuild my own life.
I AM TIRED.
Tired of princess men.
Tired of liars.
Tired of being in survival mode.
And guess who looks like the bad person through the eyes of my son?
Me.
Because he is too little to understand what his father is doing, and I will not put that burden on his little soul or tell him adult things he should never have to carry.
As I’m writing this, it’s 2 pm the next day and he still isn’t home.
I genuinely don’t know whether I should pack our things and leave now, or stay long enough to secure a job and financially prepare my exit.
I could really use advice from moms who have been through something similar, especially those who had to leave without family nearby.
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Am I being unreasonable
So my partner of 9 years seems to have a stag do every year (crazy right) we have just recently moved im always at home with my son and daughter she is 8 months old and a handful she crawling pulling her self up and have many breakdowns a day and fights naps and once again he is going on yet another stag do next weekend for 4 days am I being unreasonable asking that I need help at home with the baby as I'm struggling to juggling everything with school runs shopping cleaning dinner etc and handling a baby who always on the go. Normally it don't bother me but I feel so unseen and unheard that my feelings don't matter to the point where I have emotionally shut down. Am I in the wrong for asking for help.
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any advice???
my son is about to be 17 months old, and i reaalllyyyyyyy need some advice on how to brush his teeth with him throwing himself around going all red and doing that not breathing cry because that boy damn over exaggerates, and i can’t lie it’s so so difficult to do and deal with, i don’t want him to have any issues with his teeth before any dentist appointments
how can i make it calm for him and him realise that it’s all okay! and really not that bad of a thing! also he fidgets so much he makes himself bleed and i don’t like it :(
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Who was rude?
I went out to eat with my friend Tara. I actually invited her out and wanted to do something nice for her birthday. Since she was not having a party or doing anything special I decided I’d plan a dinner for her and pay for her meal. Now, I have no problem paying for my friends meal I was planning to do it from the beginning. However, Tara brought her boyfriend and her Mother to this dinner with her without letting me know they were coming. Long story short when the waitress asked how the checks were going to be.. I said I’d pay for mine and Tara’s. Tara’s mother and boyfriend told me I was rude to not pick up their tab. Even threw in the comment that I “must be broke.” Nothing else was said after that. It was awkward for me and I felt like my kind gesture was blowing up in my face. My friend did not say anything to her mother and man for saying those things to me. Which made me feel even worse.
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What age would’ve/would you have wanted to send your child to nursery/preschool for the first time?
In an ideal world, what age would you have sent your child to nursery/pre school for the first time?
I have a 16 month old who has never been to nursery. I am lucky to only work one day as a teacher and have that days childcare covered by family. I have not had to worry about finding the right setting, changes in routine, settling in etc.
What age does nursey/preschool become beneficial enough to send them?
We see friends with babies of similar ages and attend play/toddler groups each week.
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