Any bi-polar daddy experiences?

My ex is bi polar. He was amazing to me then we got pregnant which he wanted and planned. He started having angry outbursts towards me and at 36 weeks pregnant- he got angry and slammed on the brakes which caused immense pain. He begged for forgiveness- said he would change. Then 3 weeks postpartum angry outburst again and decided to move out. Surprisingly 2 years with me, he was unemployed while I worked 2 jobs to care for the family then he gets a job paying $200k/yr and dips out. Now he is telling everyone lies about me so he can play the victim card and not look bad for leaving his newborn and mother. He also dipped out leaving his 11 year old son with me to care for on top of it until he can find proper housing for them. I don’t get it, is this a normal bi polar thing? He states he is taking his meds but I don’t exactly believe that. He says maybe we can reconcile and do counseling in a year which I feel is ridiculous to uproot your older son just to potentially move him back again in a year. I feel he is just trying to lead me so I don’t file child support. I am starting to feel a bit crazy that I still wish things would work out with this nutball. Any advice on if this a manic episode or just a jerk of guy? Or any advice on how to handle moving on with a newborn, struggling here.

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It could be a manic episode, but I think you should file for child support anyway if he is not giving you any money for your baby or his son. Does his son have his mum around so he can go there or is that out of the question? It's not down to you to provide for his son. I think if you do get back with him it will be up and down like this all of the time and won't be a stable relationship so maybe it's best to not get back together. Especially as he is spreading lies about you. It's a shame and it will be hard to move on. Don't get sucked into any bull he gives you in the future even if you love him. I would record all contact just in case...

Girl I'm bipolar and on meds but like most mental illnesses, I've heard bipolar in men is much different than in women. I have my emotional outbursts but I'm never overly violent to my family

I think mine might be undiagnosed bipolar🙃

Mine is diagnosed bipolar and won’t take medication. He’s absolutely horrible at the moment 😔

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