Am I overreacting
I left my baby for the first time at this age (11 months) with a cousin. I left him for an hour so I could pop to the shops locally and she gave him a bottle to stop him crying. That was an extra bottle she gave him. I told her she can give him snacks provided but she gave him a bottle instead - like why? This was my worry that because my LO eats so much people would just use milk or food to calm him down. I would have preferred her to give him snacks rather than an extra bottle. He has three small 4.5oz bottles a day and I've just seen she used an old dirty bottle. I don't get it because she messaged me and I told her what snack to give. This does not do well for my anxiety or trust.
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I have a designated spot in the fridge that I keep food for the baby and a shelf in our cupboard That’s Also just food for the baby.
When I would have a babysitter come over, I would tell them they can give the baby anything on the shelf or from his spot in the fridge and I would have written times for when he’s allowed to have a bottle because I pre plan and prep everything. I think I once told the Babysitter “if you give him a bottle too early then you’ll be sad because that’s all I have prepped”
That's tough because I'm similar with anxiety I've even written a blue print on how to fill in for me. I don't want to leave my son somewhere where people do what they want I would like him to be somewhere they love him and will just do what I ask not what they are in the mood to.
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I left my baby for the first time at this age (11 months) with a cousin. I left him for an hour so I could pop to the shops locally and she gave him a bottle to stop him crying. That was an extra bottle she gave him. I told her she can give him snacks provided but she gave him a bottle instead - like why? This was my worry that because my LO eats so much people would just use milk or food to calm him down. I would have preferred her to give him snacks rather than an extra bottle. He has three small 4.5oz bottles a day and I've just seen she used an old dirty bottle. I don't get it because she messaged me and I told her what snack to give. This does not do well for my anxiety or trust.
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