I just need a rant….Struggling

Is anyone else really struggling? I feel like such a bad mum and guilty that I struggle and feel down….
We spend most days in while my partner works I have a new born and another just over a year, I struggle to leave the house with getting us all ready breastfeeding before we go then when we’re out my oldest cries because he wants to walk (has just learnt) or get out the pushchair and be involved or my baby cries because I’m not in eyesight. So in the end I just want to stay home, but then I get the guilt that all my child ever sees in the same 4 walls and the same toys.
I know it’s my own doing by having them so close in age but I feel so low that I don’t think I can do it.
Does it also make sense to say I’m lonely?
Idk I just want to cry sometimes

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Im struggling right now pregnant with my nearly two year old 😭😭😭 im so scared of what it's going to be like with a new born as well. My daughter has stopped napping at home so I just know im gonna be so exhausted

I feel lonely sometimes too
Ugh it really get to me
I do have mom guilt too but it’s super difficult getting the kids dressed then breastfeeding little man and then getting myself dressed uhh 😬
And recently I got laughed at for breastfeeding in public by a group of Muslim women so yeah that maybe breastfeeding for me 10 times worse ugh 😩
Motherhood is hard

mama it really sounds like you could use a shoulder to lean on right now. if you have any family that would be able to help you take the babies outdoors like to a museum or something, you should absolutely reach out to them. i’ll say this; I have no memories of being under 5yo, so your babies will be just fine! don’t be so hard on yourself and give yourself grace. just like the mamas in these comments, we’ve all been where you are and some of us are still there. it’s completely normal. take care of yourself first mama because how you carry yourself in stressful situations will reflect onto your children as they grow older. also, it’s okay to cry!! i hope some much needed relief is headed your way! ❤️‍🩹

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