My husband doesn’t want have sex with me after birth

Have you had a conversation about it with him and why he does want to have sex? Is he maybe stressed out with work?

Definitely bring up the whole feeling like a roommate thing, that wording helped my husband connect the dots in his brain that love is a verb. he can’t just live in the house and get along with me without any substance in the relationship.

Have a open conversation with him, there might be something going on for him that it’s stopping him initiating. Whatever it is, you need to figure it out together.

I'm so sorry about your situation. I studied psychology at the university level, but specialize in Autism, however, I recall studying human sexuality as a pre rec and learned that after having a baby, a husband witnessing birth, oftentimes results in husband not wanting to have sex as a result of witnessing birth. My professor would joke that she was a counselor...as she would encounter many men who would tell her that this was their problem. Just mentioning this! I'm not sure if this is true or not as i was single when I gave birth and again I am not a psychologist and don't specialize in this area, but I recall my professor mentioning this a couple of times. Maybe you both should look into counseling...and again, only mentioning this to perhaps let you know that other couples may experience the same issue, as my professor mentioned that this is very common after having a baby. All and all I hope and pray you both overcome this 🙏

I should say that I am very open about my feelings to him! I even mentioned that this kind of behaviour will make me feel desire for other men! I can’t be in a sexless relationship! He gets defensive then acts as if nothing happened. We have just came back from the restaurant -the baby is sleeping we were drinking tea and eating Cake - despite that I told him earlier he still didn’t initiate. I really don’t know what to do

My partner put on 30kg or so while I was pregnant and suffers with body issues and had told me this is the reason why he doesn't initiate as he doesn't feel good about himself.

Has there been any other changes for him since you have birth?

Has he always been like that? What was he like when you guys were dating?? Has anything changed? More work for him? Stress? Weight gain? (On either side) Does he still take care of his hygiene/grooming. I’m trying to ascertain if he initiated at the beginning of your relationship