Am I wrong? I cut off my husband intimately a week and half ago after I’ve decided it was time for a separation.
Since then he’s been loosing it. It took taking away sex for him to care and understand how serious I am about the separation. Which only makes me understand more that the decision I’m making is right. I will make this short. We have had troubles since Jan. 2025 and I realized I really didn’t wanna fight for someone like him. Someone with his mindset. The point is I made all this very clear with repeated conversations. Many confrontations I did. All the vulnerable spills I made. I even got to the point I couldn’t get wet for sex anymore. I thought something was wrong with me. I was not enjoying sex how I use to enjoy sex. I don’t want him sexually and I can’t just fuc him because he wants. It’s not fair to me. I hate him for making me resent him this long/much. And now he realizes it because sex is not in the picture? That’s the type of person I’m dealing with. Did he ever care about a connect that wasn’t physical? He says I’m wrong for all this.
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Did you guys seek outside help… therapist or counselor at all?
Of course you're not wrong. He needs to understand you're not together anymore.
Ur not wrong at all. And what u did is exactly what every one who is seriously wanting seperation, breakup and divorce should do in the first place. It doesn’t make any sense to keep having sex or giving ur body to a man who isn’t fulfilling ur wants or needs or when the relationship has expired & u want out. As u said, he won’t think ur being serious abt considering a seperation/divorce if ur still having sex with said partner. Honestly when women come to me to vent abt their ain’t shit partners & they tell me they want a divorce, etc. it’s always so disappointing & unserious when they continue to have sex with that bad partner that they claim they want nothing to do with. So no ur not wrong. Ur actually finally setting boundaries for urself. l wouldn’t want to keep having sex with someone I want a divorce from cuz not only would they not turn me from their behavior alone bt I would also not want to give the soon to be ex husband a chance to get me pregnant. So ur not wrong at all
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Am I wrong? I cut off my husband intimately a week and half ago after I’ve decided it was time for a separation.
Since then he’s been loosing it. It took taking away sex for him to care and understand how serious I am about the separation. Which only makes me understand more that the decision I’m making is right. I will make this short. We have had troubles since Jan. 2025 and I realized I really didn’t wanna fight for someone like him. Someone with his mindset. The point is I made all this very clear with repeated conversations. Many confrontations I did. All the vulnerable spills I made. I even got to the point I couldn’t get wet for sex anymore. I thought something was wrong with me. I was not enjoying sex how I use to enjoy sex. I don’t want him sexually and I can’t just fuc him because he wants. It’s not fair to me. I hate him for making me resent him this long/much. And now he realizes it because sex is not in the picture? That’s the type of person I’m dealing with. Did he ever care about a connect that wasn’t physical? He says I’m wrong for all this.
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