Distant Friend?
Hey guys, just wondering if any of you have had a similar experience. How you coped with it etc.
I've had a close friend for the last 4/5 years I met through my husband. She was the maid of honour at my wedding and we've been close with her partner since they've been together. We used to hang out a lot and used to see each other for dog walks, pubs etc.
We both started trying for children at a similar time. We unfortunately had a miscarriage which was very hard to deal with. They got pregnant around this time and then miraculously we got pregnant again and this time baby stayed. Since we've become pregnant again, I feel like they've started becoming distant.
We moved back home a few months ago which meant we were actually closer to them then before, but we've actually met up less than before...We've both tried to meet up with them and just feel a bit blown off. I feel really gutted because I thought I'd have a close friend during pregnancy but it feels like the opposite.
They've now had their baby and completely understand that life is probably really busy for them. We've tried to prompt them about if something is wrong but just been given the response of sorry we've been busy.
I feel like I'm going mad, it's hard because I want to be her friend but feel like she just doesn't want to be my friend. I'm fed up of reaching out and not getting a lot back. Advice please x
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My situation is more my friend has become distant since around 7.5Ms PP. I had her in the delivery room, so fairly important part to our lives. I was in a group chat with her and another friend. I made a comment in response to the other friend regarding my child's sleep habits. They both don't have kids yet. The other friend assumed if my baby slept well in my arms, then that should translate to transferring to a cot. Newsflash it doesn't😂. So in a joking way i said "you've a lot to learn"..all babies are different etc. I reread it after no replies and thought "crap, does that sound patronising"..wasn't meant to. But the friend it was too has been having some gynae issues, so after resolving it with her eventually I realised it hurt her a bit more because she was going through it a bit at the time. Completely fair, but I had VNd saying I didn't meant it the way it maybe came across..and still had to wait for her to be ready to talk to me. All fine. But the labour friend, whose very opinionated...
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